I may actually have the worst advice here. And that is... I forget about the thing that's scaring me.
My Sociology buddy Dr. Gibbs was advising me after I got rejected/waitlisted at every Ph.D. program I applied to, then Pebble and I decided to stay in Provo and do BYU Master's programs, but then UT Austin sent me an acceptance offer, but we had already made new plans, and everything was swirling.
I was and am terrified because I want to make the best decisions, and it's becoming clear there sometimes isn't such a thing as the best option. My plans are constantly shifting and it's like building a sandcastle right at the shoreline, constantly being washed away and needing to be rebuilt. I'm a planner, so I *hate* this. How are we supposed to make money, what am I supposed to do until I can apply to the Sociology master's program this coming winter? Do I need to just go find a job? How long will that take? Am I even qualified for anything? So many unanswered questions and frustrations.
Anyway. Gibbs told me not to think about it until I was in the emotional, mental, and physical space that I could handle it. Don't look, don't apply, don't even think about job searching until my homework and exams and papers this week are done. Then, I need to take some time for self-care, clean the house, make some food, and meet all of my other needs. After all that, THEN I could be brave and face my fears and anxiety by applying for jobs or emailing the Ph.D. programs to ask questions.
You may have heard of Spoon Theory by now. Basically, spoons are a vague representation of units of energy. You can create a store of spoons by doing restorative things like sleeping or eating or doing a hobby, but you also use spoons whenever you take care of tasks or responsibilities. Scary things use a lot of spoons. THINKING about scary things even uses spoons. But if I have to submit three papers this week, I simply do not have enough spoons to waste fretting about my plans for the summer. I've got to use my spoons on the present problems, then gather enough spoons to deal with the Scary Things. This may also remind you of doing the "Next Right Thing." Because Disney sometimes has some very pertinent wisdom to offer.
So. If it's a "big" scary thing that's looming but not immediate, address your other problems first. You won't find bravery if you are bogged down by too many other stressors. But you can find bravery when you're in a place where you can focus on tackling that big scary thing. Break it down into manageable bits (Pebble says this is like fighting mini-bosses before you can take down the big boss, and you can only take down the big boss one hit at a time). When you have the time, space, and energy to fight the Scary Thing, it's easier to find bravery. Time, space, energy, and a kick-A** playlist.
Obviously, there are scary things that are more immediate, but those are less frequent and sometimes in those situations the best thing you can do to muster bravery is rely on your support system of friends, family, and Heavenly Helpers.