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Question #23063 posted on 02/15/2006 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

My younger brother (12) was recently found with illegal drugs at school. This has been so stressful for our entire family, especially because he is a special education student and he spent his first night away from our family at a juvenile detention center. Since I have absolutely no knowlege of the how the legal proceedings work for minors - I think he is being charged with a felony- I was wondering if any writers could offer some helpful scripture references that could strenghten both me and my family during this time....It is just so overwhelming that I just don't know where to start or what to say to him or the rest of my family.....

-Gitty Kitty

A: Dear Kitty,

Wow. That is a challenging situation. Where to start? I just got a handout today in Sunday School with quotes from Elder Richard's G. Scott "To Help a Loved One in Need" from the 1988 May Ensign. He gives seven suggestions (these are just excerpts, but I recommend you read the whole thing):

"First--Love without limitations."

"Second--Do not condone the transgressions, but extend every hope and support to the transgressor."

"Third--Teach truth. Nephi taught his brothers: "Whoso would hearken unto the word of God, and would hold fast unto it, they would never perish; neither could the temptations and the fiery darts of the adversary overpower them unto blindness, to lead them away to destruction" (1 Ne. 15:24).

Then he gave this example of how to teach: "I did exhort them with all the energies of my soul, and with all the faculty which I possessed, that they would give heed to the word of God and remember to keep his commandments always in all things" (1 Ne. 15:25)."

"Fourth--Honestly forgive as often as is required."

"Fifth--Pray trustingly."
"The...fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much" (James 5:16).

"Sixth--Keep Perspective."

"Last--Never give up on a loved one, never!"

Some other scriptures of comfort: Isaiah 40:31, Isaiah 53:5, D&C 19:23. Search and ponder the scriptures. Pray for the Lord's help. I can't tell what to say to your family or brother. But you can "seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit in all you do," which is one of the first suggestions in "Reclaiming a Wayward Child," an article from the Family Home Evening Resource Book. Study the scriptures, pray, and do all those things to draw near unto God and He will strengthen you during this difficult time.

-Wilhelmina Wafflewitz