"I like fiery passion, actually." - Olympus
Question #50040 posted on 02/03/2009 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

In a dating relationship, what's a good average for the time it takes to get to "I love you" status?


A: Beloved-

In most relationships, "I love you" comes at the point where both parties are comfortable with saying such a thing. In my experience, it's about 2 and a half months.

- Cuddlefish
A: Dear ≱3,

Definitely three to eighteen months.

Give or take eighty years.

I am not sure the average you seek exists. There are couples who can honestly get to that point without ever dating each other. Others can date for years, (or even marry!) and never feel able to put words to their feelings.

It is too early if it is untrue. It is too late if it was true yesterday.

Hesitant, he does not utter words lightly.(XLII,6)

A: Dear <3,

I didn't tell a guy I loved him until I meant it, which means I've only had one I-love-you-relationship. It took me five years of knowing him and about three months of a "dating relationship."

- steen
A: Dear heart,

In my experience— Wait. I've never gotten to that point. Then again, my longest dating relationship thus far has been about a month and a half. Still, though, I don't see myself saying "I love you" until I'm pretty darn close to engaged. I imagine there are other people out there who see it pretty much the same way.

—Laser Jock
A: Dear <3

I've gotten to that point once (hello, Mrs. Master), and it took a little less than six months. Then it only took another month to get engaged.

-Humble Master
A: Dear sideways emoti-heart,

Why don't you just say it when you feel it?


The Man with a Mustache