Dear 100 Hour Board,
I have a friend (girl) who is engaged to someone 6 inches shorter than her. I was thinking about it, and while I applaud her, I don't think I'd be able to date someone shorter than me by more than an inch. My question is this: Guys, how would you feel about dating a girl several inches taller than you, and Gals, how would you feel about dating someone several inches shorter?
I'm actually about an inch or two shorter than my girlfriend.
It is awesome. She gives the best hugs in the world.
-yayfulness, who once had no desire to date anyone who was older or taller than him and is now doing both
I'm gonna be completely honest and say that I would likely not date a guy who is a few inches shorter than me. Is it shallow? Sure. But it's about the only physical thing that I really always look for in a guy, and I'm the completely average height of 5'5" so it's not a tall order to fill (pun not intended).
Considering how short I am: no, I wouldn't date someone shorter than me.
I'd feel sorry for my kids. And really, it's not that hard for me to find someone taller than me.
Color me insecure, but I wouldn't like the idea of being taller than someone I was dating. Girls like to feel dainty, which, if not a reality, is best achieved through the power of relativity. Why suffer the pangs of feeling like Godzilla when you can find a strapping young brute to tower over you?
I dated a guy who was shorter than me (and I'm 5'2"). I didn't love it because I'm used to be one of the shortest people in the room and, as such, looking down to talk to people who are not small children makes me a little unnerved.
-Marguerite St. Just
My dream man is 7 feet tall.
I'm always the the giant in the group; I know I'm shallow, but I get asked about my height too much. I don't want to tower over my boyfriend. Like GA said, a girl wants to feel small and dainty. And I'm not going to feel small with any guy who isn't at least two or three inches taller than me.
That being said, you can't choose to whom you're attracted. And if (heaven forbid) I fell for a guy shorter than me, I'd consider throwing out my heels. But if I could choose, I'd prefer to date guys whom I can stand next to in heels and look normal sized.
I'm with Tally—we're about the same height, and I think you'd be hard pressed to find a guy over 16 years old who's shorter than we are, so it's really a moot point. I will say, however, that if I had to choose between a taller man and a shorter one (all other things being equal), I'd choose the shorter. If I learned anything from DANCE 180, it's that more than a foot difference in height makes life just a little more difficult.