That man is the richest whose pleasures are the cheapest. - Henry David Thoreau
Question #77197 posted on 04/11/2014 12:36 a.m.

Dear guys of the 100 Hour Board,

I'm a girl, and I would appreciate some anonymous (obviously!) and honest insight into the male sex drive. Is it, as popular culture would have me believe, overwhelming and insatiable? Or is it as controllable as the church says it is? Is it reasonable to believe in and expect complete celibacy before marriage and complete and total fidelity after marriage? (including masturbatory activities)

-They don't talk about these things in Young Women's meetings...


Dear YW,

It's controllable, reasonable, and a commandment, yes.

Is it a temptation, difficult, and a constant battle for many? Yes.

- Beemer Boy

P.S. Protip: Be careful not to take cues on sex/sex drives/relationships between husbands and wives from popular culture. 


Dear YW:

As someone who is easily in the 90th percentile in terms of sex drive, I still maintain that I'm responsible for my actions. I happen to be female.

Experience and research has also shown me that a woman's sex drive peaks in her mid-twenties, typically around age 26, while for men it seems to be younger (late teens). Don't be especially surprised if your own sex drive increases considerably as you mature. Don't depend on old sexist koans about men and women to make your decisions for you: act as if you are a sexual being, and if celibacy is important to you, don't kid yourself that it will be necessarily be easy. 

Whether you agree or disagree with masturbation for either sex, I don't think it's fair to call it a breach of fidelity. It may be something you disapprove of, but it's not cheating. 



Dear meetings,

See also Board Question #56078 for another brief, useful explanation.