That man is the richest whose pleasures are the cheapest. - Henry David Thoreau
Question #87691 posted on 08/18/2016 3:04 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I recently had a dream where I married a guy who I like right now. As we were driving away from the reception he turned to me and said, "We didn't actually get married, you actually married my brother." In my dream his brother was a guy I knew in high school who I did not find attractive. I told my friend about this dream and he said it meant that whenever life is good and I'm happy that I'm worried that it'll be taken away. Now I don't generally believe in dream analysis but in this case I think my friend hit the nail on the head. Past experience has taught me that anything good in my life won't last long. Even when I'm really happy I have a sense of foreboding because I know these happy times will end much too soon. Obviously this attitude means I'm never satisfied even when life is good. How do I change this? I want to be happy and I don't want to feel like it's only a matter of time before life brings me down again.

-the other shoe

A:

Dear Shoes,

Dream analysis is fun. While having dreams, they seem weird and random, but if you stop afterwards to review them, they start to make a lot of sense. Dreams can help you realize what stresses you're dealing with in your life.

Besides revelatory dreams, which are rare for most people, dreams are mostly about the recent tensions you've been facing just under the surface. They're not all that deep. For example, I had a dream last night that I forgot to finish high school, which is related to the stress of graduating from college last week. You don't need to feel defined by your dreams. A little worry about good times ending is perfectly normal and doesn't need to define you.

Though of course it's fine to recognize that you want to be happier and worry less. The future is fairly unknowable, so I've found the most help in this area by turning to God. Study what faith and hope really mean. Pray to God specifically on the things you're worried about, and listen for His answer that it will work out. Then do all you can to trust in the message repeated throughout the Book of Mormon that "He will fulfill all his promises which he shall make unto you, for he has fulfilled his promises which he has made unto our fathers" (Alma 37:17). Sometimes that's all that keeps me going when facing my uncertain future. It takes practice but it really helps.

Our aversion to endings shows that we're not designed to be mortal. It's not our natural state. We belong with God in His eternal realm. So every time you worry about endings you can be glad because it means there's more of God in you than you realize.

-Kirito

A:

Dear Shoe Chef,

Take time to be grateful to the Lord and others for the things you have. Gratitude is a powerful tool. If you are constantly worried about life bringing you down it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Just take time to consciously enjoy where you're at and what you have, and accept anything that comes next as a new learning or growing opportunity.

-The Skipper