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Question #89906 posted on 06/16/2017 12:02 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I read this article today. (For readers who don't want to click on the link, it argues that members of the Church cannot be LGBTQ allies without supporting or condoning serious sexual sin.) What do you guys think about it?

I'm interested in your reactions generally, so feel free to talk about whatever you want to. But I'm asking in part because I feel like I'm sort of at a crossroads. I personally support the legalization of same-sex marriage; I even find myself hoping that the Church will someday embrace it the way it has embraced the extension of the priesthood to all races, although I know that's a fairly remote possibility. But at the same time part of me feels like this article has a good point, that I cannot hold such an opinion without directly contradicting God's will as revealed by Church leadership.

Is there a way around that?



Dear you,

I had a long answer, but I actually like what Anne has to say better. I'll just summarize my thoughts by saying I don't think the article is correct in saying that LGBT issues are a protected class of sin. For example, I can have a testimony of the Word of Wisdom and believe that excessive drinking is damaging to society, while not condemning my friends who drink socially or trying to return America to the Probibition Era. This may not be a perfect analogy, but hopefully the point I'm trying to make is clear.



Dear you,

Disclaimer: Not reading the article, though I think I've at least seen it before, if not actually read it.

How do you want to define "ally"? I mean, if we want to look at it from the standpoint of people who are really socially conservative, then they might say that the Church is "allied" with the LGBTQA movement because of things like this or this (and they might consider being an "ally" to be problematic.)  By contrast, others' definitions of "allyship" are going to vary drastically, and that's not something unique to this topic.  

For example: there are certain 'sects' of feminism who, because of my stance on abortion, would not consider me an ally to the cause of feminism (see also: things that frustrate Anne, Certainly). Similarly, an openness to consider certain restrictions on unlimited gun rights (e.g. concealed carry permitting requirements, background check requirements, etc.) can easily get one kicked out of the camp of "2nd Amendment defenders" by the definition of certain organizations or their members. A willingness to consider 'clean coal' as a viable part of the gradual transition to sustainable energy will to some mean that a person is not an ally of the environment.

So: Pray. Listen to actual counsel from the leaders of the Church, and limit as needed credence paid to the non-doctrinal and sometimes straight up wrong opinions of random people on the internet (and in real life). Consider how loving God and your neighbor should lead you to act towards a certain situation. Recall that a primary purpose of the Church is to help you become a person who can recognize and implement God's will in your life. Then do that stuff. Don't get too stressed about what people are going to label you, because people can get really unhelpful when it comes to determining who gets to use that label. While some labels may be self-defining, many aren't.

Good luck,

~Anne, Certainly