Dear 100 Hour Board,
I'm having a hard time understanding why a couple of the same gender is less worthy or okay in a religious sense than a heterosexual couple. Why would loving someone be wrong? What makes a homosexual couple inherently different from a heterosexual one?
-struggling with testimony
This is a hard issue. Answers can take time to find, so it's okay to be confused about it. Hopefully you can find some answers as you study, ponder, and pray about it.
You might not be aware, but the Church has an official website called Mormon and Gay that can hopefully answer some questions and help you understand the Church's stance. I've seen the Church be quite diligent in reaching out with love to that community in the last few years.
I have a few thoughts myself on the subject. Rather than state them myself, I will express my thoughts in the words of several Apostles.
Elder Holland: "But I plead with each one of us to stay permanently and faithfully in the choir, where we will be able to savor forever that most precious anthem of all—'the song of redeeming love.' Fortunately, the seats for this particular number are limitless. . . . There is room for those with differing sexual attractions."
Elder Christofferson: "Surely no one would accuse the Savior of not loving these scribes and Pharisees—after all, He suffered and died to save them too. But loving them, He could not let them go on in sin without clearly correcting them. One observer noted, 'Jesus taught his followers to do as he did: to welcome everyone but also to teach about sin, since love demands warning people about what can hurt them.'"
Elder Bednar: "The power of procreation is spiritually significant. Misuse of this power subverts the purposes of the Father’s plan and of our mortal existence. Our Heavenly Father and His Beloved Son are creators and have entrusted each of us with a portion of Their creative power. Specific guidelines for the proper use of the ability to create life are vital elements in the Father’s plan. How we feel about and use that supernal power will determine in large measure our happiness in mortality and our destiny in eternity."
There's nothing wrong with love. But love alone cannot justify sexual relations, no matter your sexual orientation.
Having said that, I sincerely hope that everyone would feel welcome in this Church. There really is a place for all.