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Question #90072 posted on 07/14/2017 6:50 p.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I believe that honesty is the best policy, especially when it comes to dating. However, I'm in a bit of a dilemma about what to tell a guy who's interested in me. There are a few little reasons I'm not interested but the biggest reason is he's a Trump loving racist. I wish I was kidding, but he seriously is. I'm planning on telling him that I don't want to date him soon, but I don't know how. For most guys I would just say I'm not interested and leave it at that. However I've had enough conversations with this particular guy about friendzoning and rejection that I know he'll want a reason. So what do I say, because I'm pretty sure, "you're a racist" won't go over well.



Dear Moderate,

Now just hold on a minute. I'm a huge advocate for frankness and candor in dating, but let's not take this too far. If you want him to know you're not interested, the best way to do it is definitely to tell him so, but in no way is this guy entitled to an explanation of why you aren't interested. So he'd really like to know, so what? Your decisions are your own, and if you're sure you don't want to date him, you don't owe him an explanation. All you have to say is that he isn't what you're looking for in a long-term relationship. Even if you decided to humor his weird desire to get a justification for your personal decisions, he doesn't need it sugar coated. If he wants to know why you won't date him, and the biggest reason is because you think he's racist, tell him it's because you think he's racist. If he can't deal with it, he shouldn't have asked.

-The Entomophagist