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Question #90074 posted on 07/15/2017 2:08 a.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

So my friends and I have signed up for the SLC Questival that's happening at the end of this month! For those of you who don't know what that is (like me a month ago), it's basically this big scavenger hunt in which you get points for completing challenges and uploading picture or video proof to an app. It looks super fun and I'm excited to do it, but I'm also a little afraid that I won't enjoy it as much because I have some social anxiety and a lot of the challenges require you to do somewhat ridiculous things with or around strangers. Do you think this will be a real problem? Have any of you participated in any other Questivals, and do you have any advice for newbies?

Thanks!

-Not A Llama

A:

Dear Demon Llama,

Until you'd written about it, I'd never heard of Questival before but that sounds awesome! Good luck and hope your team gets lots of points. As for the social anxiety, I don't know what it's like for you but here are some ideas:

  • You could start with little challenges and gradually move up to more outlandish ones as the day progresses. Maybe as you have fun with friends, you'll gain more confidence.

  • It sounds like the Questival is a large-scale event and that many people will be doing it with you. Remembering that everyone else is being pushed out of their comfort zone, too, could help if it takes pressure off of you. Generally people are more worried about how others perceive them and don't go around judging other people. Also, if the Questival is a strongly advertised event, the strangers might know what you're doing and realize you're not being weird.

  • If a particular challenge is beyond what you're ready for, you could be the one to videotape or take a picture of it instead of doing it. With social anxiety, pushing yourself is good, but if something's too much for you, recording the challenge could help you still feel involved.

  • This is something that's helped me lately with social anxiety, and it's called desensitization. Before you go to the event, you close your eyes and imagine yourself doing the thing you're worried about (so for you, doing a ridiculous challenge around strangers). You try to make it as realistic as possible and imagine that both good and uncomfortable things happen. Instead of dwelling on the mistakes in your imagination, you accept them and move on. As you become less anxious about the imagined social situations, the prospect of actually doing it becomes less scary.

Good luck! Let us know how it goes. If anyone else has suggestions or has participated in the SLC Questival, leave a suggestion in the corrections or on the Board Comment Board.

-Van Goff

A:

Dear uh oh,

I organized a Questival team last year. I don't think it will be as bad as you think. Just be sure that you are comfortable with the other members of your team. You will spend all of your time with them, and the strangers thing will be easier as you approach them with a team. Now, my team didn't even get close to winning, but we still had a lot of fun! Maybe this is a way to stretch your comfort zone a little. 

I hope you enjoy it all because it is a blast! We were exhausted at the end of the 24 hours, but if things lined up better this year we would totally be doing it again!

-Sunday Night Banter