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Question #90445 posted on 10/10/2017 9:56 p.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Why do some people think that they need to bring a date to weddings? I'm referring to girls (maybe guys do this too, I don't know) on Mutual that say they need a date to a a wedding. Why do they need a +1 if they aren't dating someone?



Dear Rainman,

Maybe they bring a date so that great aunt Myrta won't pester them about why they're still single? Maybe there are other cultural forces at hand, but that's a good reason in my book.




Dear Rainatur,

Especially since Mormons tend to marry so young, it can feel overwhelming going to the weddings of your friends and family if you're still single. Sometimes at least having a date helps to stave off the potential loneliness.




Dear Rainicorn,

My time is the most valuable thing I have. If I have to go to a wedding (which I only hate a little bit) and can simultaneously be on a date (which I only hate a little bit,) I will be making double use of my time. Now, if I could just figure out a way to do homework on said wedding date it would almost be exactly like I got to stay home. So easy. 



Dear Aziraphale,

Just going to say that everybody needs a date to have a wedding. 


posted on 10/13/2017 8:03 a.m.
In the world of non-Mormon weddings you have to RSVP weeks or months in advance. Often your RSVP includes an option for a plus one, and often it asks what you would like for dinner.

When you're going to this kind of wedding, where you will be assigned a seat at a table with people you may not know and where you're expected to stay for a few hours of dinner and toasts, planning on bringing a plus one is generally a good idea. A lot can happen in between RSVPing and attending the wedding, so if you break up, or never find a date you're in a pinch. You can't just say "Never mind, it's just me now" because the dinner catering and seating would be off and throwing off everyone's careful planning (and budgeting) would be super rude.

That's one reason why this kind of thing happens.