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Question #90858 posted on 01/21/2018 8:50 a.m.
Q:

Hola Board Members!

Two part question here. The first part is mostly just wondering about people's way of thinking. The second is where I need some ideas/information.

Part 1: In your opinion, when does a couple count as engaged? It seems that at BYU especially, it doesn't officially count until the guy has proposed and the girl is wearing a ring (even if they've already reserved the temple). My thought is that an engagement just means that you have talked about it and both agreed to marry one another. Insights?

Part 2: So, depending on your answer to part 1, I may or may not be engaged. Still looking for a ring, but I don't want to spend more than $40 on something that I'm only going to wear for a few months anyways. Something alternative seems cool to me. I'm looking at things like rings made out of coins or a prairie diamond ring. Do you guys have any great suggestions?
Thank you!

-His Fiancée?

A:

Dear you,

I'm not engaged, but I have a prairie diamond and I love it. It’s not a traditional engagement ring, but it has an interesting history and it’s fairly unique. If you’re really committed to not spending money on a gem, then I think this is a valid option.

As to your first question, I think technically you’re engaged when you’ve agreed to marry one another, but it doesn’t seem particularly official unless there’s a ring and a proposal story, since those are the first two things people care about upon hearing that you’re engaged.

Love,

Luciana

posted on 01/21/2018 2:24 p.m.
Rings made out of coins or Prairie diamond ring sound like great alternative options! It's worth mentioning however that you don't wear your engagement ring for just a few months. Once you get married, you typically get a simple wedding band to wear underneath your engagement ring. These two rings together form the wedding ring, and people often pay to get them soldered together literally become one ring.

-Recent Bride who didn't realize this for a while
posted on 01/23/2018 2:15 p.m.
If you still are looking for a cheap ring, (I have a ring I wear at the gym/swimming since I don't want to damage mine.) Going on Etsy, or Ebay you'll find great cubic zirconium rings that look nice.