Dear 100 Hour Board,
I've never felt the need to interfere with other people's business, even when they do something wrong. However, my cousin is getting married in the temple in a month and I just found out (literally from his fiancee) that they have been sleeping together for a long time, but they think if they stop for one month before they get married then it's totally fine to get married in the temple....uhhh...what? I was literally so stunned I didn't even have a response. I won't see her again until the wedding and have no way of reaching either of them (I'm also not close to either of them...). I feel like someone needs to let their bishop know? I mean, obviously it should be THEM telling their bishop, but clearly that's not going to happen. I feel super uncomfortable with this information because as i said--I'm not close to them ( i have no idea why she told me), and I KNOW it's their choice to lie and get sealed and deal with the consequences later, but I think they will really regret it....I feel like i'd be helping them in a way if I was able to let someone (his parents maybe?) know about it. What would you do if you were in my shoes?
Yeah, I'm going to go with it's not your call. They're the ones that need to make the decision to talk to their bishop, not you.
I'm a fairly non-confrontational person, so I would probably just hope that they would decide to talk with their bishop and the Lord, but you asked what I would do if I were in your shoes and not mine. Therefore, I would suggest just talking to them and tell them how you are happy they are choosing to get married and that you want to be supportive. Then express how you feel about the temple and worthiness. You might even encourage them to prayerfully consider whether they should talk to the bishop about their specific situation. Then, let them make the choice.
I think as you approach them, it provides them an opportunity to clear everything up. However, it still keeps the decision theirs. Kudos to you for even thinking about this question!
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