"We are more afraid of excellence than of failure." -Marianne Williamson, A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles
Question #91064 posted on 03/19/2018 11:42 a.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I'm trying to find a talk but have struck out. I think it was by Elder Holland, and the line I remember was him saying to parents that if you say Susie is smart and Sally is pretty, Susie will remember she isn't pretty and Sally will think she isn't smart. Unfortunately, I don't think he used the name Sally and Susie, and I can't remember the rest of the talk.

Does this ring a bell with you?

Thanks!

-working on being less envious

A:

Dear working,

Yes, this is a favorite talk of mine. You can find it here. The quote is from Elder Holland who says,

And try not to compare your children, even if you think you are skillful at it. You may say most positively that “Susan is pretty and Sandra is bright,” but all Susan will remember is that she isn’t bright and Sandra that she isn’t pretty. Praise each child individually for what that child is, and help him or her escape our culture’s obsession with comparing, competing, and never feeling we are “enough.”

Good luck!

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