"If it's causing you more stress than it's worth... it's not worth it." - Yellow
Question #91342 posted on 06/01/2018 10:36 a.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I just got called as a 2nd counselor in the bishopric. Have u ever been in a bishopric? If so, do u have any advice? If you havent been in a bishopric, what is something good that stands out from bishoprics uve known?

-pregunton

A:

Dear friend,

I was a branch president for a year of my mission, so not the same, but I got some great advice. My dad told me, "You're going to be helping a lot of people with a lot of problems, but you need to remember that they're not your problems. You're there to help and to guide and to encourage but you cannot change them or fix their problems yourself. Don't get wrapped up in trying to fix people."

This was wonderful advice. I spent a while internalizing everyone's problems as if they were my own and it was exhausting and overwhelming. This absolutely does not mean you should care about them any less, but try to understand your relationship with the people you're working with and things will feel a lot better.

Keep it real,
Sherpa Dave

A:

Dear pregunton,

I got called into a bishopric as the first counselor a few years ago, so clearly I am twice as good as you are.

 

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As for advice, it's pretty much the same advice as I'd give you with any other calling. You won't be ready for it. That's okay, no one is ready for any calling they get. I just got called to be our elders' quorum president for the second time, and despite ALREADY HAVING HAD THE CALLING I wasn't prepared for it. How could you be? It's a new situation, complete with new people to serve, new challenges to face, and new revelation to receive. You'll have previous experiences to draw upon, and that will be helpful, but pretty much everything meaningful will be new to you. It would be new to anyone. Don't sweat it.

You'll be tempted when things get difficult (and they will, often) to look at others around you and think that they could do a much better job than you could. While it's true that they would certainly handle the situation differently than you would, that's hardly the point. The point is that the Lord called YOU. If He had wanted these other people to serve at this moment, He would have called them. He knows your strengths, your abilities, your weaknesses, and everything else about you. Knowing all of that, and knowing how you would react in the situation you find yourself in, He called you. Rather than stressing about it, go to Him in prayer and find out why He called you. Find out which of your strengths or which of your weaknesses was what He wanted to use in this situation. He'll tell you. He's told me many times as I've served in the Church.

You can do this, friend. And when you figure out how to apply my advice into your service, maybe let me know, because I'm really terrible at it.

- D.A.R.E.