"Courage is the art of being the only one who knows you're scared to death." - Harold Wilson
Question #91417 posted on 06/06/2018 11:18 a.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Will I be kicked out of on-campus housing at BYU Provo if I come out publicly as pansexual? I'm not attracted to my roommates, but I'm really scared to tell anyone.

-Trapped

A:

Dear friend,

I am not an official BYU representitive, so I cannot say anything official, but I will do the best I can and link to official pages when applicable. If you still have questions you could contact the on-campus housing office (info at the bottom of the page on this link) or the honor code office (link here).

Okay, the rules for on-campus housing at BYU are that you follow the honor code. If you would like to read them for yourself you may find them here. Coming out as pansexual is not against the honor code. I can't guarantee that other people in your building will be 100% understanding, unfortunately, but from what I understand you should be okay as far as on-campus housing goes.

If you'd like to talk to people with a bit more experience in dealing with coming out, I'd highly recommend talking to someone who is part of BYU USGA. According to their website "Understanding Same-Gender Attraction (USGA) is an unofficial group of Brigham Young University students, faculty, and guests who wish to strengthen families and the BYU community by providing a place for open, respectful discussions on the topic of same-gender attraction and LGBTQ issues." If you'd like to learn more here's a link to their website. Not only will you be able to get answers to your questions, but you will also find a community of supportive friends.

I hope this helps! I'm sorry that you feel scared and trapped. If you ever want to just chat you can email me at tipperary@theboard.byu.edu. Be sure to check out USGA too.

Peace,

Tipperary