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Question #92326 posted on 06/17/2019 10:48 a.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

I have recently become nigh-obsessed with The Four Tendencies personality framework. It deals with how you respond to internal and external expectations. I would be fascinated to know what each of you are. Would you be so kind to take the quiz and tell me?

~ Dragon Lady, Obliger

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Dear Dragon Lady,

I got Questioner, which doesn't really surprise me. Now that I think about it, lots of my friends are Obligers, and I'm always having to tell them that they don't owe anyone anything.

-The Entomophagist

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Dear Tiffany,

I got Upholder. The description fit me fairly well, but I felt like, oftentimes, none of the choices really described me. 

-Az

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Dear Doctor,

Questioner.

I'm not entirely surprised, and it makes a whole lot of sense. That was probably my biggest problem at my last job—I wanted to know why they were doing things a certain way, kept asking questions, and everyone just got annoyed.

Ironically, many Questioners dislike being questioned. They consider their actions carefully, so they find it tiresome to explain or to be asked to justify their decisions.

Yep. Just ask Spectre. I do this all the time.

-Tally M.

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Dear Dragon Lady, 

I got Questioner. 

Personally, I think that makes sense with my INFJ Myers Briggs type. I tend to be a people pleaser too, but ultimately it comes down to whether or not I think something has a purpose.

Cheers, 

Guesthouse

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Dear friend,

I'm an Upholder, as it turns out. That probably explains the guilt complex.

-Van Goff

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Dear Dragon Lady,

I got Obliger as well. I'm definitely a people-pleaser and I'm much more likely to get something done if someone other than myself is expecting me to do it.

--Maven

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Dear you,

I got the upholder, but I think that's partially aspirational for me and also partly reflects of some of my OCD tendencies.

~Anne, Certainly

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Dear Dragon Lady,

Unsurprisingly Obliger. They could have replaced "Obliger" in each definition with my name it would be a perfect fit. 

-Ms.O'Malley

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Dear Dragon Lady,

I too am a Questioner, which makes sense and suits me better than any of the other three categories, though I'm not sure any of them is a fully accurate description of my character.

Love,

Luciana

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Dear Dragon Lady,

I got questioner, but I question (see what I did there) how much that really describes me.

-El-ahrairah

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Dear Mother of Dragons:

I predict Questioners will be overrepresented among Board writers. I mean, c'mon, your questions, our answers! It's our drug.

I too am a Questioner. My maternal grandmother is the Upholder-iest Upholder that ever Upheld. (My favorite illustration of this was when she was asked to take on a calling, firmly but not unkindly told them it wasn't happening, and hung up the phone. #notallmormonwomenareobligers). Most my ex-boyfriends were fellow Questioners, I'm sure. I think my mother tilted towards Rebel. This is why I often describe my family dynamic as Gilmore Girls, but make it Utah.

---Portia

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Dear Obliger,

The first time I took this test I got REBEL. Awwww yeaahhhhh. 

To be honest, I struggled while taking the test because I felt that, in many cases, none of the answers quite applied to me (though perhaps in saying this I'm just proving the point). I took the test again, but changed one answer and ended up getting Questioner the second time. 

Last time I took the Meyers-Briggs test I got INFJ (I've also gotten INFP and ENFP in the past), and on the alignment system test I got Lawful Neutral.

Since these results do not appear to mesh well, my conclusion is that, while personality tests are fun and I'll continue to take them, the results seem to be a bit unhelpful for me, particularly. 

Still, it's an interesting framework to think about.

Love,

Vienna

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Dear,

Obliger, though lately I've been pretty poor at even obliging others, so a wannabe-Obliger, if I could modify it. 

-Uffish Thought

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Dear DL,

Heh. Like Portia, just here to see how many questioners the Board attracts! (I'm a questioner leaning rebel.)

-Olympus

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Dear person,

I got rebel, but I think this reflects my relationship with my OCD tendencies more than anything else. As in, I am constantly pushing back on my own expectations of myself. To be honest, I'm pleased that I identify more with the pushing back part of myself than the expectations part. But if you were to talk to an outside observer of me, they would probably tell you I am reasonably good at completing challenging personal goals and keeping my commitments to others.

-Sheebs