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Question #92427 posted on 07/06/2019 10:19 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

This is going to sound weird, but... how can I care more about other people and the world and stuff? I'm a happy person, I have a wonderful life, and I've always loved the idea of serving or doing humanitarian work. The only problem is... I find myself with a stunning sense of apathy.

I hear about people who are killed in tragic accidents/events, and I say, "Oh wow that's so sad" and then I never think about it again. I find myself thinking about what benefits I will get from doing charity or humanitarian work (which is literally the opposite of the point of charity and humanitarian work). I will sometimes help other people if it's convenient for me, but I find myself hesitating to jump on opportunities to help and serve.

We're all God's children, you never know what kind of a difference you can make in someone else's life, etc. etc. That's all really nice, but I find it difficult to care very much. Any words of advice on how to become a better, more caring, more selfless person?

-Apathetic Bear

A:

Dear Bear,

My advice would be to make friends with people from different walks of life. I didn't have much empathy for the LGBQTIA+ community until I had friends come out as gay. I wasn't emotionally invested in mental health issues until family members were diagnosed with a mental health condition. I didn't really care about refugees and immigration until I became friends with people from other countries.

In other words, it's a lot easier to care about people than issues. Once I care about people, the issues become real and important to me because they affect the people I love. The tricky part is going out and meeting people, but once you get past the social anxiety it is really rewarding. Try looking for ways to get to know the people in your community and I guarantee your heart will grow. Hope this helps!

Peace,

Tipperary

A:

Dear friend, 

The best piece of advice I can offer is to be a good listener. At first you may find you don't particularly care about things or people, but as you listen to them more, you will begin to hear and feel things that speak to you personally. When you listen to understand the complexity of the world and people around you, I think you will become a more caring person. 

Cheers, 

Guesthouse