Whenever he thought about it, he felt terrible. And so, at last, he came to a fateful decision. He decided not to think about it. ~John-Roger and Peter McWilliams
Question #92559 posted on 09/02/2019 11:19 p.m.
Q:

Dear LDS board moms who have nursed,

I have nursed two babies before, but I always used the kind of nursing bra with a side sling (like the Anita Microfiber nursing bra). It worked really well with the new style of nursing garments (the criss-cross V front). However, I'm a different bra size this time (I'm only 4.5 months along and already up a band size and four cup sizes, bigger than when I was nursing my last babe. I'm almost out of available cup sizes, no lie, and I've only gained 10 lbs. I don't even know).

Which means that not only is it already difficult to find bras that fit well in my size, but most of the nursing bras have an A-frame sling which provides more support after unclipping (like Cake Maternity "Waffles" t-shirt nursing bra). Knowing that I will just get bigger and probably lose any options on side slings altogether is not encouraging. I can't imagine that it will be as easily one-motion to nurse with the A-frame style and a garment top as the side-sling. I picture unclipping and then having to struggle to get my garments aside from where they are trapped under that A-frame to nurse. Can any of you comment on this very specific (and minor, but feels major) conundrum?

- The Mama Who Wants to Know Everything

A:

Dear Mama,

I'm not a nursing mother (none of us current Board writers are), but don't kill yourself over it if you're not able to wear your top garment while nursing. In the case of a legitimate medical reason (like, for example, nursing), I think God will understand what's going on in your heart if you're not able to wear your garment all the time. Below, Cerulean also suggests wearing your bra underneath your garments, and that could work, too, but if it doesn't, don't feel guilty about not being able to wear your  top garment all the time in order to be able to nurse. Garments were not really made with female anatomy in mind, and a lot of women have problems with them for various reasons. That doesn't make those women any less faithful, it's just the reality having an undergarment for women that doesn't actually address a lot of women's anatomy.

-Alta

A:

Dear Mama,

Not a mom who's nursed, but I know/have heard of a lot of women who wear their bra under their garments, especially while nursing, which I imagine would make your situation a bit easier. If you trust us random folks on the internet, you might also trust these random folks on the internet, several of whom seem to have come to the same conclusion.

Sincerely,

Cerulean

posted on 09/03/2019 6:45 a.m.
I'm currently a nursing mom and use both types of bras you mentioned without any issues while wearing my garment tops. I wear the A-frame option during the day. The key is just to wear the right style garment. Like the writers mentioned, I usually wear my bra under my top and use a stretchy chemise-style garment top; it easily pulls down and out of the way without any extra fussing. But I also wear my bras on top of the new crossover garment tops for nursing (the old nursing tops were a NIGHTMARE, by the way, so these are magical) and have never had issues. It's still easy to manage one handed. The A frame doesn't really trap anything or get in the way because the strap that stays put is designed to be off to the side when you wear it, so it's never been an issue for me. You'll do great! Enjoy your newborn!
posted on 09/04/2019 8:55 p.m.
There’s also no rule that says you have to wear a nursing bra—I’ve had three nurslings and hated all the nursing bras I tried. I buy a few cheap demi-cup bras from Walmart and just fold the cup in half (from the cleavage side in) when I’m nursing. I also wear my bra underneath.

Then when I’m done nursing, I happily, gleefully get new bras.