"If you obey all the rules you miss all the fun." - Katharine Hepburn
Question #92563 posted on 08/22/2019 5:06 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I don't know if any of you have tried Bumble, but is it only for straight people? I question this because the women are supposed to contact men first. How does that work with gay men, since there is no woman messaging? How would that work for lesbians (which girl would have to reach out first)?

-Devon Barber


Dear Devon Barber,

I asked my gay brother about your question and this is what he responded with:

I use Bumble all the time. It has probably been the best app for me to find meaningful connections and individuals actually wanting to date. Using Bumble has also helped me avoid some of the more toxic parts of gay dating. So I don't know the mechanism for straight people super well because I've only used it to connect with other guys, but for me, the way it works is that we both swipe right on each other and match. Once matched, either guy has 24 hours to initiate a conversation (mostly heys, how are you, wow [this part of your profile] is way cool). Once that guy sends a message (or two or ten) then the other guy has 24 hours to respond or the match is lost.

I hope that this helps you. To answer your other question, lesbian women also do not have any restrictions except the 24 hour limit for the first two messages.