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Question #92742 posted on 11/22/2019 3:18 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I'm planning on proposing to my girlfriend and I want the proposal to be special and to go really well. Any wisdom, tips, or cute ideas for planning a proposal? I've already asked for her wishes and all she's said is that it's personal and special to us, isn't in public, and doesn't involve hiking.

-Planning

A:

Dear friend, 

All of these thoughts are kind of disorganized, but here are my thoughts/ideas/wisdom, etc... mostly based on my own experience. 

My engagement was small and intimate and quiet and peaceful, and I am so happy that it wasn't something big and extravagant. If you're doing it soon, it will probably be too cold to do something prolonged outside, so keep that in mind. I would recommend finding somewhere pretty private. If you want to, you can set up something beforehand. That's not what Pebble did, but that's up to you. 

What I can recommend is that you write down some things you'd like to say. If you want, you can give it to your fiancee-to-be afterward. She'll appreciate it. In fact, I'd recommend that you write in your journal up to the day, the day of, and the days after. You will be glad that you've captured the joy that you feel in those few days, and both you and your lover will return to those thoughts later. It's SO worth taking the time. Sharing these recorded feelings is a good thing to do together. 

Make sure you have enough light to actually take pictures. It was pretty dark for us, and I'm kind of sad that I don't have more images from the event. Video might also be recommended. Just... find a way to save images of your smiles and how you look at each other. 

Anyway, I'm not super creative when it comes to ideas, because I didn't want anything particularly creative. I just wanted to be engaged!

It will be personal and special no matter what, but in my opinion adding a ton of decorations and extra stuff doesn't make it any more special, and honestly seems like a distraction. Again, my opinion. You also shouldn't feel obligated to find somewhere that is already special for you, because if you get engaged in a place, it will become special to you. I think Ardilla's suggestion is awesome. Small, private, sweet, and pretty. Do something like that. 

Just know that being engaged is awesome and being in love is awesome and you'll be happy and AHHHH life is beautiful ???? I'm so happy for you! Congratulations and you're amazing and you've got this! 

Cheers, 

Guesthouse ☾☀

A:

Dear Good Sir,

I know you mentioned that she doesn't want it to be public, but I'm assuming she meant that she doesn't want a lot of people around during the actual proposal. So I'm going to give you this idea anyway!

Do a scavenger hunt with hints that take her to places that are sentimental to both of you. (Examples: First date, first "I love you", where you first met, etc.) Each place could have a rose to signify she's in the right place, along with your written memory of that specific place attached to the rose. Then the last place is where you'll be standing waiting, somewhere more private away from everyone. You could have more roses in your hands, decorate the place with little candles, or whatever feels right to you.

You could have a close mutual friend be with her during the scavenger hunt part to make sure she doesn't go to the wrong place. A bonus of having someone with her is that they could be sneakily texting you how close she is to the final destination. That way you're ready when she gets there. The friend could either come in after her to discreetly take pictures, of it could be just the two of you. If you choose the latter, the friend can come in to take pictures after your moment is done and you're ready to tell the world.

Good luck!

-Goldie Rose

A:

Dear Planning,

I'd suggest the sunken room of the greenhouse. It's a tropical garden with a waterfall, which is neat. Email the person in charge and see if he will let you in after hours. Worth a shot.

Suerte, 

- Ardilla Feroz