Thank you for asking me this, thoughts have needed to be put down on this subject for awhile
Openness is something that is quite relative. My father often told us children not to have our minds so open that they fall out. I tend to use this as a guide in any situation.
Let me clarify what I meant, if you are asking about the recent relationship question in Board Question #22904
. Every relationship can be handled with openness only if humility, charity, and balance are involved. If someone goes around randomly yelling, and believing, "I am the BEST! No one is better than me at anything!" then obviously, I don't believe that is openness. That is pride and stupidity.
When someone truly wants to live up to the ideals of Christ, they don't want to hurt people. This is understandable. It is against the commandments to kill, maim, steal, etc., so people have every right to fear hurting another's heart.
However, what happens if keeping quiet causes even more problems? For example, in the question in which this was stated, the poor soul was afraid that the fiancees friend had a crush on her and was jealous (whether or not the words were specifically mentioned, this is what I gathered and responded to). Assume her feelings are wrong. When she goes to talk to the appropiate person, she will soon find this out, and instead of feeling awkward around this friend, she can begin to feel better, relaxed, and open
So, what to do when my wife asks me if her hair looks bad, or ok? It isn't my jugement what her hair should look like. My wife and I have been through that subject before. Therefore, I kiss her, give her a big hug, and tell her I love her. She gets the hint. We talked about what is appropiate for the both of us openly, so this kind of situation would not cause contention.
I advise every relationship to be viewed openly. This mostly means that you try to see the situation from the other person's point of view. If you can't do that, talk to the person so that you can. Don't do it fearingly, nor cocky, but approach a problem with the hope first to define it, to discuss it, and then to brainstorm a solution.
It's not easy to do this, but life sure does mean a lot more for those involved.