"My brother is too kind. He was eminent when my eminence was only imminent." -Niles Crane
Question #25475 posted on 06/02/2006 3:01 a.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

This is lame, but how do you make more friends? Lately, my roommate and I have been pursuing these guys who aren't really pursuing back...guess they're not interested. In the meantime, we've realized perhaps we should expand our circle of friends and thus increase our chances of getting asked out, while also having plenty to do when we're not getting asked out. And, by the way, why is it girls seem to be the only ones pursuing and never guys? All the guys we know (including the ones previously mentioned) seem to be surrounded by this constant harem of girls...and we never really meet any guys that aren't (except certified-weirdos). If we don't do anything, they ignore us, b/c they're surrounded by girls...if we make an effort to show interest, it doesn't matter b/c they're surrounded by a huge group of other girls showing interest. So the question is twofold: how do we get guys to like us? How do we make more friends so we don't have to care so much about guys liking us?
- Anonymous

A: Dear whomever you are,

I take a little offense at the suggestion that young men don't make any sort of attempt to pursue young women. As a male, I've made all kinds of effort to secure the attention of various young women. Please be careful with sweeping generalizations like that.

Let's address each of your questions seperately, although, to be honest, there's going to be a lot of overlap here.

Q. [H]ow do we get guys to like us?

A. I'm going to make a couple of suggestions here. First of all, you need to occasionally be on your own so that young men can speak to you one on one. As a young man, I can attest that it's a little intimidating to try to speak to a young woman you're interested in when she's surrounded by her cronies. Some young men just aren't interested in dealing with the packs of girls, whether they're intimidated by them or not (i.e., my roommate Robert Poste). Being on your own occasionally will go a long way toward attracting potentially interested young men.

Conversational skills will go a long way toward attracting young men, as well. Just be able to keep a conversation going. Help these young men out. We aren't all brilliant conversationalists. I wish I could tell you how to be a better conversationalist, but as I'm not an especially gifted one myself, I don't have any tips or tricks for you. Alas. I can tell you, though, that being an interesting conversationalist will work wonders for you.

Q. How do we make more friends so we don't have to care so much about guys liking us?

I'm just going to blindly assume that you go to BYU. I'm pretty sure I'm right, based on the way you've worded your question, and also based on the fact that you've submitted it to the BYU 100 Hour Board. You need to attend as many ward functions as you can. Go to everything the activities committee tells you to. Go to FHE like it's your job. Go to ward prayer and talk to everyone. Spend as much time as you can trying to get to know people in your ward. They're going to be the easiest source of friends that you have available.

Try getting involved in clubs and social groups on campus. Think of something you like and join the corresponding club. There are more clubs than you probably think here. Most are affilated with BYUSA - stopping in at their office and asking should prove helpful.

Create your own activities, even. My roommate and I hold barbecues here periodically, and we manage to make tons of friends through those. Organize some sort of activity and host it. It doesn't even have to be big. Invite people over and play games. Supply some sort of food for snacking on. You'll soon find that you have so many friends that you don't know what to do with them.

Write back if you need more.

- Optimistic.
A: Dear Nonny,

The best advice I can give is to learn to be genuinely interested in people. You'll find most people really like to talk about themselves and they'll be more inclined to learn about you when you're willing to listen to their stories. Let them know you really care and are interested in what they have to say. I have more friends now than I ever have because I now genuinely love to ask people, "How are you? Tell me about your day," and really listen. Be a friend and you'll find friends.

I think you're on the right track about not wanting to worry about "getting guys to like you." I swear, the minute I finally let go of that was the minute I met Mr. Nike. Why? Because I HAD A LIFE! Because I was involved with other things, and let me tell you, friends, that is intensely atttractive. Someone who waits around and constantly whines about not having someone to date - not attractive. I was also finally willing to let Heavenly Father direct my life instead of me trying to do it (since that really wasn't working out so well). Just be your very best and let the menfolk come on their own. When you are at your best, you can't help attracting others of both genders, and you can't change anyone but yourself. I think you've got a good mindset.

Oh, and you're not lame. You're just willing to ask the question a LOT of people want to ask but are afraid to. Good for you.

Nike
Question #25472 posted on 06/02/2006 3:01 a.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

Is it possible to breathe yourself to death? I know if you don't breathe enough air you die, but what if you breathe too much air? Sometimes when I have a panic attack I start to hyperventilate, and I'm breathing so fast and so deeply that my fingers start to tingle and I start getting dizzy and all that, and I think, "Oh my gosh, I'm going to breathe myself to death!", which usually doesn't help the panic attack any. Could that really happen: could I die from breathing?

-Airhead

A: Dear Airhead,

When you breathe too quickly, like in a panic attack, your body actually isn't receiving enough air (you don't give it enough time). However, the body does have a defense mechanism, passing out.

In extreme cases of hyperventilation, where no methods of intervention seem to help, medical personnel will sometimes simply let the person hyperventilate until they pass out. When the person loses consciousness their body takes over and they start to breathe normally. Therefore, you could never breathe yourself to death, because your body would never allow it.

-Phoenix
Question #25471 posted on 06/02/2006 3:01 a.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

I fly to Philadelphia rather frequently, and this time I randomly got a question. How much does this flight cost the airlines per person (meaning, how much are they making off of my ticket)? I fly on a standard Boeing 777 usually and it's somewhere around 1950 miles. I'd imagine it should be a uniform $/mile cost (since it costs about twice as much to go twice as far).

- The Economizer (who may start an airline depending on the answer to this question)

A: Dear Economizer,

According to the Bureau of Transportation Statistics , Regional Carriers report the highest domestic passenger revenue yields- about 20.4 cents per revenue passenger mile. That's basically the passenger revenues divided by passenger miles. Network Carriers make about 11.4 cents per mile and Low-Cost Carriers, bless their hearts, only make 10.2 cents per mile. The airlines that are making the most per mile are American Eagle, Comair, and Atlantic Southeast. The ones that are making the lowest profit are JetBlue, ATA, and America West.

As for starting an airline, good luck. The operating expense of each flight per seat is 15.0 cents per mile for network carriers, 13.7 cents for regional airlines, and 9.2 cents for low-cost carriers.

- Lavish
Question #25470 posted on 06/02/2006 3:01 a.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

I've heard that if you want to make sure that there is no rain on a particular day (i.e. a holiday where there will be a parade), you can have a plane fly in/over the clouds and spray something into them that will ensure that it will not rain. Also, that the converse can be done (i.e. you want to make sure it snows in the mountains). What is the process involved? What do they use, and how expensive is this to do?

- The Economizer

A: Dear Economizer,

Think about it. Clouds are always moving. So say you wanted to spray something into the clouds. How would you know which clouds to spray?

Aside from that, if it could be done, it would be so expensive that the only people that could do it would have to be really, really rich. How come you don't hear celebrities doing it for their weddings? It rained for Jessica Simpson's wedding. Or Pasadena doing it for the Tournament of Roses? Didn't it pour last year? Or New York doing it for the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade?

If you ask me, which you did, someone is pulling your leg. Hard.

- Lavish
A: Dear the economizer,

I'm familiar with the process of seeding clouds with silver iodide to increase the chances of precipitation, but I have to confess that I've never heard of the opposite being true. Let me explain how cloud seeding works, and you'll see what I mean.

Clouds are full of supercooled water; that is, liquid water droplets that have a temperature below their normal freezing point. In that state, the water will remain airborne and will not turn into precipitation. If the water were to freeze, it would band together and become heavier, creating precipitation. Introducing silver iodide causes the water to more easily solidify. The silver iodide has a similar crystalline structure to ice, which causes the water also to crystallize. (Interestingly enough, the scientist credited with this discovery was Bernard Vonnegut, brother of Kurt Vonnegut, whose novel Cat's Cradle had much to do with the crystallography of ice.) Seeding a cloud with a material that would only further cool the water and make it still less likely to crystallize doesn't really seem to be a feasible option.

In fact, the actual effect of cloud seeding is debated, as there isn't really a way to determine how effective adding silver iodide to a cloud is, as you remove the possibility of seeing how much precipitation the cloud would have generated on its own.

I'm with Lavish, though. Were methods like this scientifically possible, I think we'd see them used much more heavily than they are now. Clouds around major sporting events (or any major events that rain would be an inconvenience at, like the Rose Parade) would be seeded heavily to avoid rain. Clouds over farming areas would be also be seeded heavily to induce rain. The fact that we don't see things like this is a pretty strong indicator that such methods really aren't economically viable.

- Optimistic.
Question #25468 posted on 06/02/2006 3:01 a.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

With the reprint of Elder Oaks's talk on dating in the June edition of the Ensign, I am curious to know what changes the single board writers have made in the past year with regards to dating vs. hanging out, and if they have any suggestions for those of us who are having a hard time making the transition. Inspirational success stories would be great. Also, do you have any advice to add to the accompanying article by Kimberly Webb on dating?

- Hanger Outer

A: Dear Hanger Outer,

I must admit that since Elder Oak's talk, I have tried to make an effort to change but I haven't done that well. Isn't it really hard to not hang out - it is so easy to do it. You really don't have to make yourself vulnerable to other people and, for the most part, it is cheap!

I think the biggest thing for me is to make myself vulnerable by asking girls out and just sharing myself with them. Does anyone else think that? But the question still remains: how do you beat this horrible attitude? To put it simply, there is no real solution.

In fact, the only way to change it is to make a conscious effort. Most people around will not comform to it, you just need to do it on your own. At the same time, too, you should do it a little at a time. You can't expect to change yourself immediately; it will take time!

As for Kimberly Webb's article, I believe so much in what she said. In fact, I strongly believe the portion that talks about how girls need to COMMUNICATE their interest! I struggle so much with girls who don't communicate with me their interest. Just as the article said, a simple rub on the arm or pat on the back does SO much for a guy. It tells us, "hey, I don't know you, but I would like to." Yes, girls, that is what it means. It doesn't mean that we want to immediately marry, build a family, etc. Rather, it means that there exists a curiosity which allows for a relationship to grow.

In regards to everything from the above articles, a prayerful heart should be used. We should ask for help in these matters; how else can we expect any relationship to flourish? With that, good luck! We will all need it.

Resilient
A: Dear Hanger Outer,

A few months before Elder Oaks' talk, I heard a talk on the same subject of dating vs. hanging out in my stake conference. As a result of this talk, I decided that I was going to try to make more guy friends and develop friendships that could progress into a relationship. At the time I had recently started hanging out with a new group of friends. Mr. X happened to be in this group. We hung out for about 4 months, then one day I took the initiative. Two of my other friends already chatting regularly with Mr. X online. While at my other friend's apartment, I made a mental note of what his MSN screenname was and added him to my buddy list. This led to more of just the two of us talking together, and soon after, Mr. X asked me on our first date. It was smooth sailing after that.

Like Resilient said, I think the hardest part is for guys to ask girls out. But it doesn't have to be complex. You don't even have to include the word date in your question. I think Mr. X inquired if I had any plans for a certain day, and when I said no, he offered to take me out to dinner. Of course, girls should show interest and make themselves available for guys to ask them out. This is the hard part for girls. But it really doesn't take much. Find an excuse to give him your phone number or email or instant message screenname, and then talk to him. For me, since I was already talking to him one-on-one, it was natural for just the two of us to go do something together instead of just doing something as a whole group. So, my ideas on the matter is that hanging out is not bad, it's just bad if that's all people are doing. Hanging out is a good way to meet and get to know people that you might be interested in. Then, you have to show that interest and start dating one-on-one. That's my success story. I hope it inspires you to make that tough transition and get out there and date!

-Mrs. X
Question #25467 posted on 06/02/2006 3:01 a.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

Today I was rereading the cereal box for the umpteenth time and I started looking at the ingredients.

My cereal boasted that it was natural, and so I was kind of surprised to see all kinds of interesting names that probably occur naturally in nature but are not things that I would think to include in a new recipe.

I'm wondering, how do companies know which ingredients to include?

I understand that preservatives would probably be an addition to most any recipe, and could be added without changing the color, flavor, or texture.

But say I want to go invent KIX in my kitchen...I don't have Calcium Carbonate or Trisodium Phosphate (or, not that I know of anyway...). And I doubt that it would occur to me to use corn meal AND whole grain corn AND corn bran in a recipe.

What is the process for inventing a recipe with scientific ingredients? Do they make a basic recipe and then scientists modify it to draw out particular flavors and traits while preserving the original idea?

- "Cereal" pleasure to read the Board instead of cereal boxes.

A: Dear Clever Name (No, I'm serious),

You quite possibly do have calcium carbonate, unless you're allergic to it, or perhaps you used it all after reading Board Question #25349. Yup, Calcium Carbonate is just plain chalk, though they could very well add some things in there too...like color. If you've got some Tums or Rolaids around, they're the same thing.

Trisodium Phosphate is something you might not have as readily available at home, but you can get it at your local hardware store if you want to. Check out: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trisodium_phosphate for more information on that.

As for how they figure out how to make what they do, well...it's a bit of trial and error. Food additives have been around since about the industrial revolution, when people stopped living on farms and they had to start sending people things that had to be preserved. They've actually been around longer, as you can see if you check out http://www.open2.net/everwondered_food/science/science_health03.htm.

Someone a long time ago figured out that if you add certain things to cereal, it helps to make it last longer, have better texture, more firmness, resist sogginess, etc. etc. etc. Once one person figures something out (at least with current FDA regulations) everyone else knows what they put inside of their cereal to make it work the way it does, because they're required to post it on the label. So, one company can look at another and see what those crazy folks add to their cereal, and see if they can get their chemists back in the lab to try some of the same experiments. It's all sort of an educated trial and error thing...and once you've got a recipe that works, you stick with it.

-Novel Concept
Question #25428 posted on 06/02/2006 3:01 a.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

I'm hoping you can give me some of your oh-so-wise
advice because I'm having a bit of a problem.
For some reason I have this ability to attract women, lesbians really, and while being a woman myself this is sort of a problem for me because I am not interested. At all. I never seem to attract the guys I want, heck, I rarely date, but when it comes to girls... This "female" problem of mine never happens in Utah, just my lovely homestate of NY. How can I be nice to people yet at the same time let them know that I'm just being friendly and I'm NOT interested in females??!!??
sheesh, if I only had this problem with men...

- NY Doll

[Editor's note: This submission was edited for length.]

A: Dear NY Doll,

Wow! I must say that your situation is unique and also very interesting. I can only imagine that these situations make you feel uncomfortable.

Your question: "How can I be nice to people yet at the same time let them know that I'm just being friendly and I'm NOT interested in females?" The easiest, and the most kind, is to be honest and tell them how you feel. There is no reason why anyone should be put in an uncomfortable situation; you have the choice! In the case of this woman at your work, in a private and appropriate situation, I would tell her that you feel like she is hitting on you and that it is making you feel uncomfortable. It might sound like a bold and forward thing to say, but it is honest. Personally, I think it would be the best thing to do.

Another thing to consider is that your situation, in some ways, is a form of sexual harassment. In that context, you have all right to say something to your co-worker.

I would, though, make sure of their sexual orientation (if that is possible). You wouldn't want to start asking someone to stop hitting on you and then find out that they are heterosexual. Talk about your awkward moments.

Resilient
A: Dear NY Doll-

Occassionally mention guys you've been on dates with, or mention when an attractive boy comes into range. While I usually recommend avoiding subtlety, unless the women in question act overtly, don't do it yourself.

-The Franchise
Question #25376 posted on 06/02/2006 3:01 a.m.
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Dear Horatio,

Horatio as in Horatio Gates or Horatio Cane...? And are you the same person as the beard-wearing right reverend rusky roo?

Agatha

A: Dear Christie,

Like Horatio in Shakespere's "Hamlet"... I am a harbinger of truth. I tend to bring the world (like Hamlet) back to some form of reality and understanding. I'm here to tell it like it is.

My full name is, and has been for quite a while, "Horatio K. Frankenziemer." Now, many will ask "How can you have a name like 'Frankenziemer' and still be a Mormon?" The answer is... um... I made the name up. I have no connection to either cultural or religious Jews (I respect the religion... not the politics...). So, that is just something I play with.

I am here to bring rulers back to reality and help others see the truth of life. Um... and I do a decent job at times.

And... no... I have no beard. I don't think I could have a beard. I tried a moustache once... and it was a miserable failure.

That is all.

Horatio the Clean Shaven (just now... right out of the shower)
Question #25288 posted on 06/02/2006 3:01 a.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

What are the blue and white flowers west of the Maeser building called? I've been studying next to them for the last few days and have grown quite fond of them. Thanks for the help.

- appalled

A: Dear Appalled:

Sorry it took me so long to get this answer. I kept waiting for my awesome flower mom to come down and tell me what they are, but she wasn't able to. So, I asked someone else. Lobelia. Lobelia are the blue flowers that you are so fond of. Sadly, it looks like they're dying out of that spot. The other blue tallish flowers that look like grapes are called Grape Hyacinths.

Hooray for flowers!


Mojoschmoe