Dear Elder Awkward:
Hmm, I thought classic RRM (recently returned missionary disorder) had symptoms of slipping into a foreign language and an uncontrollable urge to ask freshmen girls on dates. Huh.
I hate to break it to you: but the "short" part gives you minus points in a lot of girls' eyes. I want to make it clear that I am not one of those girls, and have known some attractive, fun short guys in my time, and have nothing against them . . . but then, I'm short. If you're, say, 5'6", I'd stick to asking out girls 5'4" or 5'3" or shorter: you might have better luck, and we're not that hard to find.
It is the last week of classes, bro. Not exactly prime time for first dates. You don't have to have a date every weekend to be a worthwhile person.
Find other good activities to be interested in. Talented, involved guys are much more attractive: and I, for one, don't exactly like the thought of just being one girl in a machine-gun line-up of dating frenzy. Focus on the girls you're really interested in.
Working out can't hurt, but I tend to think of guys who spend hours and hours on that a day as sort of shallow.
I would suggest dressing well. This doesn't have to be trendy, but this does mean avoiding things like tapered jeans, socks with sandals, wearing white socks with dark dress shoes: you know, common sense sort of stuff.
Hair can be a big deal-maker or -breaker for me. Good job picking up on that.
Haristyles I like (Keep in mind, this is just me):Young John Mayer
Really, I like both Josh Duhamel's and Topher Grace's (despite the latter's dumb name) here
.Non-emo Peter Parker
(Can you tell I'm biased towards brunettes? Haha.)
Hairstyles I don't like:
This Fall Out Boy
wonder. (Although it's pretty funny to imagine your typical conservative RM with it.)
Strangely colored mohawks
. (Shudder.)Emo Peter Parker
I am so against side-parted
hair, it's not even funny
. This is a very popular style with awkward RMs
. Break away!
NO NO NO do NOT comb it backwards. Do you want to look like this
? (Correct answer: no.)
Ideal guy hair, in my mind: brown. In a happy place between missionary cut and shag. A little gel, but not 2001- style (no porcupine spikes.) No part. Combed a little bit up, I guess, not back. No highlights. No greasiness. That being said, don't go all metro
on me and spend an hour in front of the mirror. Ten minutes, max.
Speaking of hair: some facial hair can be attractive. And I don't think BYU will really yell at you. Don't be a lumberjack, but since you're short, you don't want to look prepubescent. At least look like you could
grow a beard, if you wanted to.
Good luck! My roommates are always wanting dates. Maybe you should ask some of them out. Don't just go for the extreme hotties: we girls who might be more "cute" than "hot" can be fun, too. And often a bit nicer, as well.