"My brother is too kind. He was eminent when my eminence was only imminent." -Niles Crane
Question #37000 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

So I've heard that saying the words "I love you" for the first time can advance a relationship or bring it to a screeching halt. If you feel that way about your significant other, but not sure if they feel the same way should you just say it, hint at it, or what?


A: Dear gotoguy3,


How long have the two of you been dating? How do you love her? Do you feel like she loves you? I mean, ultimately if you say it, there's going to be a chance that she won't feel the same way back. But you know, most of the time if the guy is ready to say it, the girl is ready to hear it. And even if she's not ready to say it back, hearing it isn't necessarily a bad thing. Just make sure you know that if she doesn't say it back right away, that doesn't mean she never will. In my opinion it's worse for her to say it back and not mean it than to not say it at all.

- Lavish
A: Dear gotoguy,

One way to test the waters is to say something like, "I really, really like you." It's less confrontational and allows her to say something like, "Well, I really really like you too!" or, "Thanks, I kinda like you." If she gives you a big smile or something, you can probably go for the "love" word. Keep in mind that different people have different ideas about what saying "I love you" means. Some people might have a hard time saying it back because they don't feel sure about their feelings.

Just remember, as soon one party in a relationship establishes an equal or greater attachment, the other party has all the power.

A: Dear gotoguy,

I really like what Lavish said: "And even if she's not ready to say it back, hearing it isn't necessarily a bad thing." Is it a bad thing to love? Can you love too much? I don't think so (I don't think you can love too much, I think there's a lot of distortions on what love actually is). If anything, it will get her thinking. She'll either be able to reciprocate (at that point or, again as Lavish said, at some point in the future) or she'll realize that she never would be able to (in a romantic unabridged love sorta way). If she can't say it back and mean it at some point then it's good that the relationship ends. Being in a relationship with someone that could never love you (unabridged) is very not-sexy.

-Castle in the Sky
Question #36993 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I don't think I'm very good at asking questions because they keep being misunderstood. I guess I have to work harder on my wording. Please have patience with me as I keep resubmitting questions.

In Board Question #36868 I asked what one would call the familial relationship if my brother married my best friends husbands sister.

I was told: my sister-in-law. But I didn't mean the new relationship between my brother's wife and I(also my best friends brothers sister), rather the relationship between my best friend and I in regard to this new family connection.

I shall illustrate:

I am related to my brother
my brother marries a girl
this girl is related to her brother
her brother is married to my best friend.

What would you call the link between myself and my best friend (other than friends)?

- one more time around piccadilly circus

A: Dear clown,

I'll take a stab at this. The way I see it is this

You -- Bro == Girl -- Hubby == BFF

where "--" represents a sibling relationship and "==" represents a marriage relationship.

Unfortunately, the "in-law" relationship in our culture is pretty vague. Mostly I've heard or seen "in-law-in-law" when referring to a spouse's sibling's spouse (where each "in-law" refers to one marriage relationship), or jokingly, an "in-law once removed", but these don't address in-law's siblings and the "once removed" is already defined as an indicator of generation. Others simply refer to the person as an "in-law" and explain the relation.

I think the best answer is the technical one. To continue my chart above, it goes like this:

You -- Brother == Sister-in-law -- Sister-in-law's brother == Sister-in-law's brother's wife

I think there are two main options here. Your friend is either your sister-in-law's brother's wife or the more vague your sister-in-law's sister-in-law (which could be you...). That is, unless you want to consider any in-law's sibling or spouse as an in-law, which means she's simply your sister-in-law, since you're all in the same generation.

This reminds me of something funny from my family. My sister's daughter is 6 years younger than me and her best friend was my brother's wife's sister. We used to joke that if I married her best friend, her best friend would become her aunt and her sister-in-law-once-removed... or aunt-in-law... or cousin of some kind (mom's brother's wife's sister).

-=Optimus Prime=-
Question #36990 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I've heard that the yellownish of armpit stains comes from chemicals in your anti-persperant, not really your sweat. Is this true?

- Hearsay

A: Dear say here,

When the thing you want explained
Is unique like "armpit stain"
Search the archives!
Search the archives!

If you want to save some time
Finding from whence came that slime
Search the archives!
Search the archives!

Board Question #932
Board Question #10946
Board Question #999
Board Question #1842
Board Question #2212
Board Question #5063
Board Question #29146
Board Question #35792
(And a link, for fun.)

-=Optimus Prime=-
A: Dear -=Optimus Prime=-,

*Applause! Wild cheering*

-all the other writers
Question #36988 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear One Hundred-Hour Board,

What is your favorite sculpture or painting on campus?

- dawdler

A: Dear George,

By far, the First Vision sculpture in the JSB's little atrium.

-Kicks and Giggles
A: Dear Dawdler,

I love landscapes and the ones that they currently have hanging in the Museum of Art on the main floor are beautiful to me. There is a specific one I love with very vibrant colors-but I cannot recall it's name. Definitely worth taking a look at!

Question #36987 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Is Broadway's Phantom of the Opera coming by here anytime soon??

- Phan

A: Dear Phantom Phan,

Sorry, while Phantom is currently on tour, with a permanent showing in Vegas it is not likely to be coming to Salt Lake anytime soon. Here are the current locations:

PERMANENT: London, Las Vegas, New York, Australia, Osaka, Budapest,

US TOUR: Toronto, DC, Ottawa, Syracuse, Birmingham, Chicago.

"Phantom of the Opera" is not only my favorite musical, it is the only Andrew Lloyd Webber production I actually like.

Random fact: He wrote the music especially for his wife-at-the-time Sarah Brightman (Christine Daae). Which is why the original cd version sounds so much cooler, imagine having a good voice and then having music written just for you!

-Castle in the Sky
A: Dear Phan and Castle

Does anybody else find it humorous that Toronto is included in the US tour (and Ottawa)?

-Humble Master

Question #36986 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

What happens if one wears their contacts in for an extended period of time?

- me

A: Dear you,

Then werf's eyes could get really dry and itchy like mine are right now. Wearing contact lenses for a long period of time may cause blurry vision, pain, and redness due to the lack of oxygen passing through to the cornea. A lack of oxygen can also change the shape of your cornea and results in uneven vision. They can increase werf's risk of corneal infection. Or werf could get a bacterial infection if they are not clean. If they change werf's eye color everyone will be confused. You meant "in" as in your eyes, right?

- steen
A: Dear You,

I have a friend who couldn't wear contacts for a while because she would always leave them in too long; she would fall asleep in them constantly, for instance. She did some damage to her eyes, and you can see that they're redder than usual. I really wouldn't recommend it. She missed her contacts.

—Laser Jock
Question #36985 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

BBC very recently made a new Jane Eyre movie. I REALLY want to see it, but I don't know where I can watch it. I don't want to buy the movie without seeing it first, for fear that it may be a waste of money.

So, my question is: Where can I get my hands on the movie without buying it?

- crazy wife in the attic

A: Dear Crazy

It is available for renting online from Blockbuster and Netflix (so I'd also assume it would be available at your local rental store).

-Humble Master
Question #36984 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear Optimus Prime,

So, my friend really wants to know what the 5 largest cable companies in MEXICO are, too. Thanks!

- Cable Complex

P.S. You have an awesome name--especially in light of the movie coming out on July 4th.

A: Dear si si,

Thanks, I like my name too, but I'm wondering if it shouldn't be "Larry the Cable Guy"... You know, it would have been easier for you to just click on some of the links I provided in my last response, like one of the ones that linked to Wikipedia's List of Cable Companies, but you know. Whatever. For MEXICO!!!!! they list:
  • CableVision
  • SKY Latin America
  • Multivision
  • MegaCable
CableVision is the biggest, but other sites mention Cablemás as being the second largest.

I hope "your friend's" curiosity is duly sated.

-=Optimus Prime=-
Question #36983 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear One Hundred Hour Board,

In Tolkien's Lord of the Rings, is Sauron an elf, orc, man, or dwarf? I don't remember that being clarifed in the books or movie.

- Middle Earthling

A: Dear Middle Earthling

According to this article about Sauron, "In the earliest of days, before the godlike Valar entered the realm of Arda, Sauron originated as a spirit called a Maia. He was at first one of the most powerful servants of Aulë the Smith, one of the Valar or ruling powers of the world. He is described as being concerned with ordering the universe, and through this Melkor corrupted him." So he's a spirit.

-Humble Master
Question #36981 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I am starting at BYU in the fall and I was wondering how I could find out if any of my classes had required summer reading. Does such a thing exist in college?

- incurable overachiever

A: Dear io,

I've heard of such a thing in grad school, but never for undergraduate classes (and certainly never for incoming freshmen). If your teachers want you to be aware of summer reading, it's up to them to contact you with a syllabus or reading list. If you're officially registered for classes, then they've already got your contact information, and if they do want to send you any information, it'll probably go to your Route Y email account, so be sure to check it for updates. Really, though, I don't remember ever having a summer reading list for any of my classes at BYU.

- Katya
Question #36980 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

What is the boards opinion on asking out the girl who cuts your hair? I'm curious because I've had the same stylist a few times over the course of the last year and I really enjoy talking with her. I know they are all really friendly because it's a big part of their job, but do they expect to be asked out ever by one of their patrons? How do you think they would show interest if they ever really wanted you to ask them out?

- Fancy New Haircut

A: Dear George,

According to my hairstylist/best friend/roommate...

Just be brave and ask her if she wants to go out sometime. If she says yes, she's probably slightly interested. Get her number and plan a date. Whatever you do, don't be creepy. Try to find out if she's attached first, too, as that would be more awkward if she was. Hairstylists don't expect to always be asked out because it is part of their profession to be nice, so it's definitely flattering if a client does take notice and the initiative to ask them out. Good luck.

-Kicks and Giggles
A: Dear Fancy New Haircut,

My opinion is that it's OK if (1) you only ask her out once (if she says no, that's it) and (2) you ask her out at the end of the haircut. The thing about (1) is that she's going to be obligated to keep seeing you because of the nature of her employment, so it's not fair to her for you to keep bugging her to go out with you if she's really not interested. The thing about (2) is that it would make the haircut really awkward if she's turned you down at the beginning of it (plus you can use the chat time during the haircut to find out if she's already got a boyfriend).

I agree with your point that stylists are sort of obligated to be friendly because of their work, but I also suspect that she wouldn't be in that line of work if she wasn't naturally friendly and outgoing. As far as telling if she likes you goes, that one's tough. If she remembers you when you come back for a haircut, or if she ever ran into you outside of work and was happy to see you, those would both be good signs, but I don't think you can know for sure.

Good luck!

- Katya
Question #36977 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear 360,000 Second Board,

I always like to read the more funny questions on the board, so it's ironic that mine is of a such serious nature.

I am considering turning in an application to BYU. I have sort of an issue though. I'm not fully clear on the whole BYU-approved housing thing. Does that mean that any apartment you moved into in the area has to be approved by them? And, as an extension of this, does that mean that all people that you live with also have to agree to the Honor Code?

My situation is this. I am married. I am a member of the church and my husband is not. He said he was okay with the religion issue before we were married, and I believed him. Now he has become very anti-mormon in his attitude and actions. He's come to accept the fact that I am who I am, and despite rude comments, he doesn't try to threaten or intimidate me into not going to church anymore. However, with regards to BYU now. We have talked about it, and he has agreed to consider my going to BYU, but the biggest issue with him right now is the Honor Code. I have no problems living by it, I do anyway, but he absolutely refuses and feels like it would be the most unfair, selfish thing in the world for me to ask him to do this.

If I go to BYU, will he have to follow the Honor Code as well? And if so, does that mean fully? He has an earring, and he will not take it out. And he usually doesn't shave very often (much to my chagrin). Would he have to follow all the standards of dress and everything?

- conflicted wife

A: Dear Wife,

There is really no reason to worry. BYU approved housing applies only to single BYU students. Since you are no longer single you can live where ever you want to and your husband would not be expected to live the honor code if he didn't want to. While you are a student at BYU, you would still be required to live the honor code, and maintain you bishop's endorsement, but your husband would not. Good luck. I sure hope this helps. Please don't hate me.

-- Brutus
Question #36975 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I slacked off some in high school and as a result didn't go straight to a university. I went to my local community college for a couple years and then real life complicated things in the form of a baby (my mother's, not mine). I moved back home and spent several years taking care of my baby brother during the day and working in the evenings. I'm not saying I regret any of what happened, because I love that little boy like he was my own and he is so precious, but as a result, my education plans were put on hold. I'm now 25 years old and married. Do you think it's too late for me to go back to school? If I applied to BYU would I be out of place as an undergrad or are there enough mid to late 20-somethings that I wouldn't feel awkward or silly for being there?

- Fish out of water

A: Dear Fish out of water,

I don't think any of us are going to tell you it's too late. President Hinckley said, "I urge you to get all of the education you can," not "I urge you to get all of the education you can but only before you get married or turn 25." And really, I think you'll find that there are more people at BYU with similar situations to yours than you expect.

Go for it.

- Lavish
A: Dearest Fish,

I'm older than you and married and I'm still here. I say it's definitely not too late. The majority will be younger than you, but I've had no trouble finding friends, even as an old man. To echo Lavish, don't give up on your education for such a small reason.


Old Bald Guy
A: Dear Evolving Fish,

I think there's a big difference between not fitting into the average demographic of a group and not having an important part to play in that group.

Yes, you will be older than most of the other undergraduates. You won't be the oldest person on campus, by far, but you may be the oldest person in a number of your classes. However, I'd like to point out that that may not be such a bad thing. You'll seem very old to your teenaged classmates, but you'll also seem very mature and wise. (Which you will be, compared to many of them.) Your professors and TAs will appreciate your presence as a mature, serious student who won't need babysitting, and your fellow classmates will respect you for going back to school at an age when it's easier not to and look up to you as someone who's had a lot more experience in the world than they have.

I don't want to scare you into thinking that you will have to play the role of the serious big sister to all of your classmates. Give your younger classmates the benefit of the doubt in terms of being able to overlook age barriers and become good friends. I had four semesters of Russian with a couple of BYU employees who were old enough to be my parents. (In fact, I went to high school with some of their kids.) Over those two years, a group of us came to be very close friends, and age and life experience simply didn't matter.

Like Lavish and the Old Bald Guy said, it's definitly not too late to do this.

- Katya
Question #36972 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

dear one hundred hour board,

how likely is it that there will be a full-length smurfs movie in the near future? what about ducktales or darkwing duck? fraggle rock? are there any other awesome TV shows from your childhood that you'd like to see on the big screen?

--lanada, who can't believe how few people remember the snorks

A: Dear lanada

Around the time of the first Scooby Doo movie I recall reading a rumor about a smurfs movie. I hadn't heard anything more about it, but here it says that the script is being written, with a November 2008 potential release (however, the movie is supposed to be animated, so I imagine it won't be coming out in 2008 if the script isn't finished yet, animated movies take years to complete).

As for the others, there was alread a Ducktales movie in 1990. There aren't currently any plans for another.

The Jim Henson company has announced plans for a Fraggle Rock movie in 2009.

Most unfortunately there are currently no plans for a Darkwing Duck movie, it would be awesome (I loved that show).

As for cartoons that I would love to see adapted to the big screen: Gargoyles (it's had rumors for years, but there is nothing in production right now), Batman Beyond also had rumors, and even a script, but it's not going to happen now, G.I. Joe (the same producers who are doing Transformers have picked up the rights for this movie...here hoping), Voltron (I think some company has the rights to this and is developing it), and, of course, The Tick (I never understand why all of the media adaptations for this character have not been wildly popular).

-Humble Master (I have absolutely no memory of the Snorks, but I've talked to other people who have fond recollections of that show)
Question #36964 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,
Are anyone of you guys on facebook...
Just wondering~

A: Dear Phinneas,

Heck no.

-Kicks and Giggles
A: Dear Just Wondering,

Is any one of us on Facebook? Yes, I'm sure at least one of us is. But not me.

Try typing "Facebook" into the Search box on the right hand side of this page. Press enter. Tada!

- Lavish
A: Dear curious

A coworker of mine set me up a facebook account some time ago, so technically yes (though I haven't been on it more than a few times since it was set up, and not for months now).

-Humble Master
A: Dear wondering one,

You are that random person who just tried to add me, aren't you? If you were really my friend, you would know that Facebook is definitely not the way to make a good impression on me.

Question #36963 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board...
I need help with some ACADEMIC LIFE
I personally don't think I have an ADD problem and I think I am OK paying attention in class but I have a tough time when it comes to reading things. Such as Reading Assignments. I sometimes wonder off in my own little world when I read. Then I have to reread the entire paragraph or even a page or too again and it wastes my time. How do you guys who read really well do it. I honestly don't read as often as I should. Yes prayer I know will help! However, please let me know of any other tactics or insights... What about reading books more often... Does that help?
Da ADD Reader

A: Dear ADD,

I love to read, and I think a lot of it was how I was raised, plus a natural inclination toward reading. There are some things I've noticed, though.

First, yes, the more you read the better you get. I think that's one of the single most important things. It's not a quick fix, but it works.

My mind sometimes wanders, too. I've noticed that for me, it happens most often when I'm tired or not as interested in what I'm reading. I think the best solution may be to a) do your reading when you're feeling the most alert, and b) pick a spot where you can concentrate. At a table or desk would probably be a lot better than laying on your bed or the couch.

Good luck! You may want to try stopping by the Career and Learning Information Center (CLIC) at room 2590 in the Wilk. They teach workshops on various topics, some of which include "Textbook Comprehension," "Listening and Note Taking," and "Memory." They may also be able to point you to someone else.

—Laser Jock
A: Dear DaADD Reader,

I have this problem when I read text books or books that I consider to be boring. I learned a technique in a Student Development class one time that I'd like to pass on to you. They told us that most people usually best remember the first and last 10 minutes of what they hear/read. Therefore, if you read for 20 minutes and then take a short break then it might help your reading focus. This technique has worked for me and has made reading text books and actually remembering information a lot better for me.

Question #36962 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Hey! I'm only 15 but I still think you guys are awesome. So here's my question... I'm the Mia Maids president in my ward and I'm completely out of fun ideas for mutual. We have about fifteen people in our class. What are some fun things we could do? What mutual activities did you like the most? Sorry, I know thats two questions, but they kinda go together.

- not so creative

A: Dear,

Get out and do things. Pretend you're tourists in your own town, and visit places you've never actually been.

Or while it's nice, have a picnic and go swimming, play frisbee, or something like that. Maybe you could get access to an elementary school's PE parachute or something! That would be really cool. Roll down hills, take a hike, set up a slip'n'slide.

Do whatever you do with your friends, or things you've always thought would be cool to do with friends. Set up a movie on a projector against a wall or sheet. Go to a rock-climbing gym. Learn a new board or card game. Get some ice cream. Experiment with new hairdos. Learn how to refinish yardsale furniture.

Find an opportunity for service. Yardwork, tying bows that hospitals can glue to newborns' heads, assembling and bagging newspapers, cleaning up a trail or building or park or street, cooking dinner for people who like to eat, whatever needs to be done in your community.

I know it's hard to think of things. I served as a president several years, myself. But part of the reason for that is that there are almost limitless activities you could do. Take a little notebook with you, and whenever you hear of something cool to do, write it down, and see how you can adapt it for your own activities.

And don't forget to use the girls in your class, too. They have ideas too, if only you can get them to share.

-Uffish Thought
Question #36760 posted on 06/19/2007 3:01 a.m.

Dear 100 Hour Board (especially Yellow),

Sorry for the series of questions, here, but I have a nagging desire to know. Your answers may prevent catastrophe (and a lawsuit or two) ...

Regarding fire alarms. How stiff is the handle's spring? At what point does the alarm go off? Is the handle textured so that sweaty hands don't slip? What about after you pull it? Does the lever reset itself? Could it immediately be pulled again, or is there something that physically breaks in order to set off the alarm?


- wouldn't really.

A: Dear Olympus and Yellow,

Blast, I claimed this remembering I've pulled a fire alarm, but now I realize I can't recall the specifics on how it worked, and my contacts aren't getting back to me. I recommend you start bothering Novel and Madam Manatee yourselves, in the hopes of getting accurate information.

-Uffish Thought
Question #36982 posted on 06/19/2007 midnight

Dear 100 Hour Board,

How many writers are there? I always assumed that there are about a dozen or so, but looking as the writer stats list there are a bunch more i have never heard of.

- Your Name Here

A: Dear Your Name Here,

The number fluctuates a bit as writers join and leave, but we've been around 25 writers lately. Some of them have multiple aliases, though, so you'll certainly see more than that on the writer stats page.


A: Dear Your Name,

See also Board Question #9411.

- the librarian