"My brother is too kind. He was eminent when my eminence was only imminent." -Niles Crane
Question #67249 posted on 04/16/2012 9:26 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I'm applying to the accounting program in the spring, and I was looking at different requirements and saw that Math 116/118 are required (for the business school in general, I believe). I checked online to see if my AP Calc AB score would let me pass out of 116/118, and the source I saw said it wouldn't. But, I heard rumors so I asked the pre-management people anyways, who just went in and passed me out of those classes! Wohoo! So now I have two questions regarding that. One, how was that even possible? And two, am I going to be at a disadvantage by not taking those classes? I don't remember much calculus at all from high school.

-4 credits freer :)

A:

Dear freer,

Their website says that 118 is not even required (only strongly recommended), so it looks like they wouldn't even need to do anything. 

I think the business school wants its students to be able to think quantitatively and logically, and requiring a math class helps students develop those skills. At the same time, my understanding is that undergraduate accountants don't actually use calculus; the math is mostly about adding columns of numbers and solving simple equations. If the advisement center told you it isn't necessary, you can probably safely skip it. 

Of course, if you wanted to be cool you would take more math just for fun, but for some reason not everyone wants to be cool. People are mysterious to me. 

~Professor Kirke

Question #67247 posted on 04/16/2012 8:56 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

When will BBC's Sherlock be legally available in America? And where?
Thanks,
RG

A:

Dear RG,

My roommate Ampersand informs me that the DVD of Season Two will be released in America on May 22, but if you want to watch it before then, PBS will air it on May 6th. You should be able to buy it on Amazon.

~Anne, Certainly

Question #67246 posted on 04/16/2012 8:08 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Does anyone else think that State Street in Orem looks/feels like a really long version of the main street of a small trucker stop town?

My experience with these types of towns has been driving through Nevada on Interstate 80 and driving on the I-10 between the valley of the Sun and Southern California. I'll throw the I-15 all through Utah in for good measure.

Here are some of my reasons. Aesthetics. 1. Billboards? Really? I semi understand billboards on a highway or freeway (even though I don't like it). But putting billboards on a main street of a town. No comprendo. 2. Updating. I feel like many of the businesses, houses, apartments (including my own), etc. have not been updated here in the Provo/Orem area since the 1970's. 3. Marketing. All three of these ideas are related in that it comes back to aesthetics. In my opinion, the marketing strategies of these businesses turn me off. Putting up ugly signs with terrible design and unappealing aesthetics will never win over my customership (sorry for the made up word). If these businesses really wanted to attract customers, it seems that they should invest a little more into presentation and visual appeal.

Sorry for ranting and raving.

Willing to vote for legislation that obligates business owners to make their business more aesthetic along State Street

A:

Dear Willing,

I'm sure that other people agree with you. I might even be one of them. On my mission I realized the Provo area isn't strictly "ghetto" so I stopped using that word, but it really does tend to fall on the range from quaint (nice streets of oldish houses) to tacky (streets of oldish businesses). 

Billboards: yes.

Really: yes.

~Professor Kirke

A:

Dear Willing,

Yes, other people agree with you.

And I am one of them. But as far as a fix goes, I think you've got it backwards. This is by and large the city's problem; don't fault business owners for putting up billboards if zoning laws permit them. The city should plant more trees, offer tax incentives to businesses that turn pavement back into green space, think about green medians (like the one on University Parkway north of the junction with Freedom), and rezone properties to encourage taller buildings with residences in them, encouraging pedestrian traffic at night (these ideas are not mine originally; they mostly come from the articles I linked for you).

No Dice

Question #67244 posted on 04/16/2012 8:08 p.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

Background information: In a recent BYU Independent Study Facebook post, it said, "TOMORROW, wear your BYU Independent Study T-shirt, show up in Brigham Square or the JFSB..."

My question is simple: Where can I get a BYU Independent Study t-shirt?

-IS Student In The Dark

A:

Dear IS student,

By the Jamba Juice in the WILK, four in the afternoon on a reading day. The halls are quiet, except the whir of the blender and the melody of a pop song over the PA system. Mico stands by the counter, waiting for her nommy parfait. Various people wait for their drinks, specifically a female student wearing an IS t-shirt. 

Jamba Juice Employee: "Fruity Pebbles for IS Shirt Girl! Fruity Pebbles!"

Mico looks about and spots the IS shirt. Remembering a Board question that recently came in, she gathers up the courage to approach the stranger.

Mico: "Excuse me... um... uh..."

IS Shirt Girl: *blank stare, wants to drink her drink*

Mico: "Where did you get your IS shirt?"

IS Shirt Girl: *squinty, are-you-serious? eyes* "They were just giving them out the other day at Brigham Square."

Mico: "Oh... thanks?"

End Scene.

Ahem, so anyway, they only give out shirts as prizes and promotional items at various on-campus events (this was confirmed by a direct call to IS). Keep an eye on their Facebook page for details about when such events will occur.

-Mico

Question #67243 posted on 04/16/2012 8:08 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

My father-in-law recently passed away. He was 65 and had paid into social security for decades. His widow is 59. Can she get medicare? Or does she have to either buy individual health insurance, or get a job with benefits?

Thanks!

-Tiffany

A:

If your husband dies, you can get widow’s benefits if you are age 60 or older. If you are disabled, you can get widow’s benefits as early as age 50. Your benefit amount will depend on your age and on the amount your deceased husband was entitled to when he died. If he was receiving reduced benefits, your survivor benefit will be based on that amount.

If you are a widow with children, you may be eligible for a widow’s benefit at any age when you are caring for a child who is younger than 16 or disabled and entitled to benefits. As a widow, you also may be eligible for Medicare at age 65.

If you remarry before you reach age 60 (or age 50 if disabled), you cannot receive widow’s benefits as long as that marriage remains in effect. If you remarry after you reach age 60 (or age 50 if disabled), you will continue to receive benefits on your deceased husband’s Social Security record. However, if your current husband is a Social Security beneficiary, you should apply for a wife’s benefit on his record if it would be larger than your widow’s benefit. You cannot get both.

If you also are entitled to retirement benefits based on your own work, you have some other options. Ask a Social Security representative to explain the options, so you can decide which would be best for you.

From this, it sounds like she would not be able to receive monetary benefits until she turned 60. However, at this general info site we see that it might depend on whether or not the spouse was receiving any benefit prior to his death.

How do I apply for a survivor benefit? If  you were already receiving a spousal benefit, report the spouse’s death to the Social Security Administration, and they will change your payments to survivors benefits. If you were receiving benefits based on your own work, you might be eligible for a higher survivor benefits, depending on your spouse’s work record. You would need to complete an application to switch to survivor’s benefits, and supply an original or certified copy of the death certificate to the Social Security Administration.

Similarly, this FAQ states that "if you've been getting Social Security disability benefits for 24 months you can receive Medicare at any age." You didn't say whether or not she is disabled or if they had already received any Medicare benefits, but that is a factor to consider. It sounds like she would be able to get Medicare, however you or she should really contact the Social Security Administration directly (here is the SSA's website with contact info). Also, Senior Corps has some more information that you may find useful. Good luck!

-Mico

posted on 04/17/2012 12:35 p.m.
The questioner's mother in law will not be eligible for Medicare until age 65 unless she has been receiving Social Security Disabilty for 2 years.

The fact that she is only 59 implies that she has not been receiving a spouse benefit because you have to be at least 62, or have children under the age of 16, in order to receive that benefit.

If she applies for her widow's benefit prior to age 65, she will be automatically enrolled in Medicare when the time comes.

--From a Social Security Employee
Question #67242 posted on 04/16/2012 8:08 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

A couple weeks ago, a very fine man asked me to kiss him. I had liked him for a while, however I did not think he was interested at all so I was very surprised. I politely declined and explained that he could take me on a date first (and he enthusiastically asked me on one). I for sure would have just gone for it but I have some very jealous man friends that woulda had his head if I had done this, so I needed to take care of them first. He then flaked out on the date and I didn't hear from him. So, after about a week, I just shot him a casual text asking what was up. We had been friends before this kissing fiasco, so it was not out of the ordinary. He didn't respond at all for about another week. In the mean time, some random chick "warned" me about him and said that he had been with another girl for quite some time. So, I texted him again asking if we could hang out. He deleted me off facebook the next day. I see his friends around campus all the time and they mad dog me like nobody's business. I feel that I deserve an explanation but I feel like if I show up at his doorstep or anything, I will look like one of those crazy desperate girls looking to get married, which I clearly am not. What do you think?

Sincerely,
I just want an explanation and hope to keep at least some of my dignity while I'm at it.

A:

Dear hope,

Just forget about him. He's already tried to take advantage of you, flaked on you, ignored you, and been rude to you. And when I stalked him down to ask him for an explanation on your behalf, he just said "Dude, all I wanted was a NCMO, and she started getting all 'C.' on me!"*

~Professor Kirke

*Ok, not true, but I'm not sure what you're expecting to hear from the guy. Nothing good can come of this; I'd just drop it and leave it alone. 

A:

Dear just,

Hm, I actually read your question a bit differently than Professor Kirke. To me, it sounded like a guy (who you like at least a little) wanted to kiss you and you said no. Then he wanted to take you on a date and you said you'd have to think about it and "take care" of some stuff first. Then, after a week of not talking to him (how would he ever know whether things had been "taken care of" if you didn't talk to him for a week?), you tried to pretend that nothing even happened. That's a triple rejection, yo. I can understand having hurt feelings over that, although I also think the unfriending and his friends' reactions sound a little out of proportion.

If I'm reading your question right, you both sound a little immature. You're perfectly within your rights to say no to a date or a kiss, but it's pretty lame to shift the blame to your jealous friends instead of just politely declining, and then pretend like nothing ever happened. Additionally, he's perfectly within his rights to have hurt feelings after getting rejected (you recognize that even if that's not what you meant, that's how he would feel, right?), but it's also lame to cut off a friendship because of that. It sounds like both of you need to stop doing the first thing that pops into your head and start treating other people the way you hope they'd treat you.

- Eirene is feeling blunt

Question #67241 posted on 04/16/2012 8:08 p.m.
Q:

Do football players have to live on campus?

A:

No.

~Professor Kirke

Question #67240 posted on 04/16/2012 8:08 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

How do you get the pickle smell of a jar lid? I've been able to successfully get the smell out of the jar by letting some crumpled newspaper sit in it over night. I tried wrapping the lid in newspaper, but the smell stuck. I also tried putting a little baking soda and water in the lid, but that didn't work either. Is there a way to get this pickle smell off of the lid so I can use the jar without turning everything pickly?

-No more pickles!

A:

Dear but I like pickles,

Basically, you should follow The Captain's instructions in this board question: dilute a few drops of bleach in a few cups of water and shake vigorously with the lid. Then rinse the lid and stick it in the dishwasher. This should... get you out of your pickle. (C'mon, you knew that was coming. I would apologize for the horrible stretch of a pun, but it was kind of inevitable.)

–Concealocanth

Question #67239 posted on 04/16/2012 8:08 p.m.
Q:

Dear Concealocanth,

I prowled the Internet as best I could and I found out your name might be [American]*? I don't know. That's as best I could do with the information given. I like your Twitter feed though. How do you feel about setting up dates with people across the Web? You seem smart and opinionated and you YOURSELF said you were pretty, and these are things I like.

-Cheese ball nacho bacon fake bomb

[NOTE FROM THE EDITORS: There used to be a real name here, but we edited it out and replaced it with another word that still makes sense.]

A:

Dear Big Cheese,

Apparently something has been in the air... love? ...obsessive fandom? ...fruitless pear blossom stink? but anyhow, it seems there's been quite a bit of interest in my existence lately. Therefore, I present to you, Cheese ball nacho bacon fake bomb, my dating application.

I should warn you, though, I have a strong opinion that I'm not actually very opinionated. I don't particularly like bacon, fakeness, or bombs (except for dry ice ones), but nevertheless I encourage you and anyone else with some spare time on their hands and a deep and abiding love for Concealocanth in their heart to click on over and fill out the application. Applications are funness!

–Concealocanth, who is thankful for the Editors and their vigilance.

A:

Dear cheese,

Things seem to be getting pretty steamy between her and this bullfighter dude. Proceed with caution, Cheese ball nacho bacon fake bomb.

--Pilgrim

Question #67237 posted on 04/16/2012 8:08 p.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

I'm thinking of taking Music 160R this fall, but I'm scared to take it. I love playing piano and singing so I would either choose to study piano or voice, but by no means am I an accomplished pianist or vocalist. In fact, I'm very unaccomplished at both, but I want to improve.

So.

Is Music 160R for future Mozarts and Puccinis only or is it also ok for someone like me who just wants to improve their skills?

Have you, any of the Board writers, or any of your friends, taken Music 160R? What was your (their) experience?

I'll put in effort and hard work and I'll practice, but are you graded by how amazing you are or just by how much progress you made? I don't want to decimate by GPA.... haha

Lots of questions, so sorry, but thank you in advance!


-My Creative Juice Reservoirs Are Currently Empty And I Am Unable To Think of A Clever 'Nym

A:

Dear Creative,

We've answered plenty of questions about Music 160R in the past. I think you'll find just the information you're looking for by utilizing our wonderful search function. 

-The Entropy Ninja

A:

Dear Igorina,

Personal opinion: I took 160R (piano) once, and had a love/hate relationship with it. Love for the automatic A, hate for the fact that it was SO STINKIN' EASY that there was absolutely no challenge at all.  Now, for some clarification, I myself am no concert pianist (far from it!), but I've been reading music since I was about 5, and I know my notes. That being said, I remember the class being graded solely on effort and progress, not perfection. 

-Azriel

Question #67231 posted on 04/16/2012 8:02 p.m.
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Dear 100 Hour Board,

With the Facebook timeline, is it possible to remove a photo someone tagged of me from my timeline, but keep it in the (visible to friends) 'tagged' photos section? Basically, I want people to be able to see it if they click on my 'Photos', but not have it be at the top of my Timeline. (Especially since I'm not really active on Facebook, so most likely this photo a friend tagged me in would stay at the top for a couple months, which would be annoying to look at).

Thanks for the help- I promise I'm usually quite adept at figuring out this kind of thing on my own, but I'm stumped this time.

-Tagged, not Timeline

A:

Dear Tigger,

Nope, sorry, I don't think there's any way to do this. According to Facebook Help's Tag Photos section, a photo either is tagged and shows up on timeline or isn't tagged at all. If I were you, I'd just untag the photos and save myself the trouble.

–Concealocanth

posted on 06/24/2013 9:48 a.m.
For future reference, there is a setting here that says "Review posts friends tag you in before they appear on your timeline?" (it's the second one down). This will allow you to refuse to allow a post on your timeline, but the tag is still there.

Alternatively, if you hover over the box with the picture in it, a pencil appears in the top right corner. Click it, and there is an option that says "hide from timeline."

Love,
Voldemort is a facebook privacy freak.
Question #67230 posted on 04/16/2012 8:02 p.m.
Q:

When will we know for sure who the Republican candidate will be in the 2012 US presidential race?

Grant Emery

A:

Dear Grant,

August 30th. And it will be Romney.

~Anne, Certainly

A:

Dear Grant,

And though it won't be ironclad official until the convention, the market is currently betting on Romney at 97.2%. If it were a scientific study and not a market, that would be described as "for sure."

~Professor Kirke

Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

My parents have the means, and insist, on paying my tuition and college expenses. They make a few hundred thousand a year, but also have that much still to pay off in their student loans.I just don't feel right having them pay my way through college. I would feel better working, applying to all kinds of scholarships, and making up the difference with student loans. The first two (working and scholarships) are expected regardless, but our opinions differ on the student loans. I am also saving for a mission (which they would be happy to pay for).

Their opinion:
"I can make make enough to pay for your entire year in a few days."
"You are being prideful not to accept help when it's offerred to you."
"You will be putting a burden on your future family by taking out unnecessary student loans."
"We have a plan to pay off our student loans and retire. We can afford yours too."
"We have gone to school and sacrificed all these years so we can afford to help our children however they need."

Mine:
"I don't want you to pay for my school until you've finished paying for yours."
"I wouldn't feel right having someone else paying for my school."
"I will make it fine with minimal student loans. Most people do."
"Once I move out, it's no longer your responsibility to provide for me."

Do you think I am being prideful and should accept their help, or I am doing the right thing working this out myself? I guess I could have a worse dilema.

-(hope this really is) Anonymous

A:

Dear Anonymous,

If I now started rejecting all help from my parents, I could probably still graduate debt-free. On the same note, if I accepted my parents' help but declined all future semesters of my scholarship I could probably graduate debt free. That said, I cash the checks from my parents and accept scholarships. Right now, my scholarship and my parents' support make a big difference for me; they let me save my earnings so that money isn't going to give me stress or limit my options as I start my career and my family. At the same time, the amounts involved make little difference to my dad or to BYU.

By accepting the money now, I can only work jobs that'll help my career, for only as many hours as will help my career. I also have enough time/money to do the random projects that teach me a lot and make my resume much more attractive. All this makes me more likely to make more money in the future. Then I'll be able to donate back what I got from BYU with interest and more, and I'll be able to provide similar financial support for my own kids. On first blush it might look like I'm just taking advantage of a fortunate situation, but really, I'm making the world better for everyone by accepting the money being offered me. 

I wouldn't call you prideful; I understand wanting to make it on your own. After my undergraduate degree my parents don't plan on offering help and I don't plan on asking for it, and I think that's the way it ought to be and that it'll be good to be on my own. At the same time, you seem to be shooting yourself in the foot...you're arranging a disagreement with your parents in order to be poorer. If it makes you feel better, think of your parents' money as a scholarship with very specific requirements, and then once you're doing well financially donate the amount they gave you to the Perpetual Education Fund or something. If you can't handle that, accepting your parents' money on a loan basis, as Genuine Article suggests below, would also make sense to me, for the reasons that she gives.   

If you need a compromise solution, just accept their money (they are happy), secretly send it all to me (you are still on your own), and I will use it to help my career (the world becomes a better place). Everybody wins! 

~Professor Kirke

A:

Dear Anonymous,

If you're ready to get out there on your own, do it. I understand they want to help, but every parent should want for their children to be independent/self-sufficient, and to keep you from realizing your potential in that regard is misguided. It will limit you in the future. I think you're doing the right thing by trying to earn your way as much as possible.

Now, you're trying to save up for things, but there's a good chance that your progress will be slow. Some things, like going on your mission, should not be delayed because you insist on paying for absolutely everything. If your job and scholarships don't quite cover everything, I think having your parents fill in the gaps in your finances is somewhat preferable to going into debt. They insist on paying for things? Insist that they treat it as a loan, with you paying it off every month, just like you would a student loan (only without the hassle of interest and the possibility of hired goons roughing you up should you miss a payment). Make your terms very clear and stick to them. 

What I've presented is a logical solution to your problem, where everybody wins: your parents get to help you out, and you don't have to feel like a sponge, because you're paying them back. Just keep telling yourself it's a loan. It's a loan. It's a loan. If you can't get over the thought of even borrowing money, then yes, I think you have some stuff you need to figure out. I've been in your shoes. For most young people, they need to learn how to stop living off their parents and grow up. I have always liked being financially independent, so that was never my problem. My problem (and yours too by the sound of it) is that I do not like asking for help. Maybe it's pride, maybe it's stubbornness, but I do not like relying on other people. And while I think God helps those who help themselves, there has to be a balance. Reliance on others can keep you from growing, but complete self-reliance can cause you to forget the hand of God in your life. My advice is this: try your hardest to provide for yourself, but don't fall into the trap of thinking it's shameful to need help.

Best of luck to you,

Genuine Article

Question #67228 posted on 04/16/2012 8:02 p.m.
Q:

Dear 107925284880 km/c in hours Board,

We often measure distances with time, but have you ever measured time with distance?

-Warped Mastermind, who likes to find strange ways to write 100 hours, and can't wait for that link to form a closed loop with google

A:

Dear WM,

You mean like every road trip ever? 326 miles to go!!! (What I actually mean is about 5 hours.)

–Concealocanth, taking the low-hanging fruit.

posted on 04/17/2012 12:34 p.m.
This is actually relatively common in physics. It is well known that 1 foot is about equal to 1 nanosecond for light.

-Parzival
Question #67225 posted on 04/16/2012 8:02 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

What happens if you tell God you're going to fast for 48 hours for X and then you actually only fast for 36 hours? Or you say it's going to be a fast where you don't have food or water, but then you do have water? How do you repent if you keep breaking promises to God? And then fasting to make up for it, but then you break that promise too?

-He probably doesn't trust me anymore

A:

Dear He trusts you,

First off, it's good that you want to fast, but it seems like you've probably got an honest misconception about fasting. From the Family Home Evening Resource Book:

“Sometimes Latter-day Saints think that if it is good to fast for 24 hours, it is three times as good to fast for 72 hours. Healthwise nothing could be farther from the truth. Missionaries, especially, must have strength to carry out their work and should not over-indulge in fasting anymore than in food-faddism. Let’s follow the counsel of our leaders ‘that food and drink are not to be partaken of for twenty-four hours. …’ If longer fasting is required of us, they will so direct us.” (Lindsay R. Curtis, M.D., “Questions and Answers,” New Era, Apr. 1977, p. 49.) 

I assume you were unaware of this advice, but now you are, so that solves part of the problem! If you fast 24 hours, that's much more likely to be achievable. 

I've done fasts where I realistically could not go 24 hours without water, when I was sick and/or working outside in the summer in a tropical climate. I usually tried to mention this in the prayer when I was starting the fast. Failing that, when I've passed the point of mere discomfort and I'm actually getting sick, I'll say a prayer explaining that I think I need to stop and eat or drink and asking if that's ok; I can typically then feel at peace with breaking the fast early. In the future, I'd recommend bringing this type of thing up in your prayers as you start and end fasts. I'd view and phrase the prayer to start a fast as a commitment to do your level best and not as an ironclad oath to fast at any cost. God is understanding.

As for repentance, first off you're obviously going to need to pray, explain what happened and how you want to proceed in the future, and ask forgiveness. Secondly, you're going to have to just do fasting right for a while. Repentance is best demonstrated by doing things right over a long time period. You're also going to need to forgive yourself, which may be the hardest part. As you do all this, remember the advice above to not go over 24 hours, and also remember that the monthly fast is often adequate (if you want to improve your spirituality, extra gospel study or temple attendance or a host of other things can often be more beneficial than extra fasting). 

For what it's worth, though, I think God loves you for your desire to fast and is very understanding of what's happened. Don't get too down on yourself. Ask to feel his love and forgiveness as you pray, and eventually you will. 

~Professor Kirke 

A:

Dear untrusted,

Did God ever tell you that he accepted your commitment to a 48-hour fast? It sounds like you were trying to ask for some special blessing by fasting, but did you ever receive any confirmation that God agreed with that commitment? We're taught (as PK mentions above) that we only need to fast for 24 hours or 2 meals, so I doubt the Lord is going to require you to do anything more than that. Don't get too down on yourself; you're only human!

- Eliot Rosewater

Question #67223 posted on 04/16/2012 8:02 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

So there's this guy. I have known him since High School and I have liked him ever since. He's my brother's good friend, so he always hung-out at my house but we were always just friends and I didn't know him that well except for about a month before he left on his mission we started hanging out and I got to know him....
Fast forward two years... he's now here at BYU and he's in my ward. We reconnected and started hanging out. It's been really great.This semester we have hungout almost every weekend. The hanging out is mostly in a group (a group of friends we have in the ward) but he does flirt with me. The thing is he's kind of a flirty guy and also flirts with the other girls. After all this hanging out, one day we hungout just us two and I went with him to test drive a car. We hungout all day and then went to dinner. It wasn't originally supposed to be a date but he bought my dinner so it turned into a date. That was a few weeks ago. He hasn't asked me out again, but he's still flirty and we are still good friends. He has been on a date with another girl in our group of friends too. I talked to another girl about it when she asked me how things were going and I was like well, I don't know, he's been out with this other girl and he hasn't asked me out again. She told me after our date he told her that he liked me, but he isn't interested in dating anyone right now (he is leaving for the summer, and well so am I). I have also heard people say he likes the other girl in our group of friends too. Ah. Sorry for all of this rambling. Basically what I would like to have your opinion on is-

Would it be a good idea (and how you would do it)to talk to him before he left about whether dating me is a possibility (for after the summer)? AH I really want to but I don't know if it'd be a good idea. I really just want to know if it's possible or not. Is it risking our friendship if I talk to him about it? Or would it be better (as hard as it would be) to just wait it out and see and not say anything.


Sorry for all of the rambling.

-Impatient

A:

Dear Impatient,

Personally, I'd just not say anything until you're back together in the fall. But, that's just me talking; I don't know you or him. This really isn't that big of a deal, but it might help your peace of mind if you list out some pros and cons for talking to him. The reason I'd wait is because there aren't any major pros; the reason for having a de-friendzoning-DTR with someone is because there's a dating relationship you could have now that you're missing out on. Because you're leaving, this pro doesn't really exist for you. The other pro would be that you no longer have to speculate about his feelings for you, and that it would help you move along in your dating life to know definitively, one way or another. However, if it turns out that he doesn't really reciprocate your feelings, then it'd be a bad idea to have this "date me?" discussion with him now, because you won't be around to smooth out the awkwardness and make sure your friendship is still alive and kicking. So, yeah, I'd wait, unless your need to know his feelings is so all-consuming that it outweighs the problems with such a discussion that I mentioned.

–Concealocanth

Question #67222 posted on 04/16/2012 8:02 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Out of pure curiosity,if someone here were to post a question where they stated they believed something that was contrary to the honor code or church standards, is there any chance they could be reported to the honor code office? I guess I'm curious EXACTLY how anonymous this website is....

-Silence Dogood

A:

Dear Silence,

I really doubt it. Unless what you tell us is something like "I believe in murder, and I'm planning on killing my roommate," you're probably okay. 

~Anne, Certainly

P.S. Don't kill your roommates.

A:

Dear Saffron,

Not everyone who asks questions is even a student at BYU. What would the honor code office do then? Tell them to stop wearing leggings under skirts/shave their beard before they could ask any more questions?

-Marguerite St. Just

A:

Dear Silence,

Questions asked truly are anonymous, so no, no one's going to swoop down from the HCO and snap your BYU ID in half if you admit on this forum to doing something bad. The exception would be if you pose a threat to yourself or others (plans for suicide, rape, or murder), in which case the Editors could look up your real name and alert someone appropriately situated to deal with the situation. If you look through the archives you'll find all sorts of examples of wrong-doers looking for advice, so know that if you have done something egregious you're among friends.

Readers have nothing to fear—it's only us writers who could be chastised if we step too far over the line.

-Genuine Article

Question #67220 posted on 04/16/2012 8:02 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Between the ESC and the Benson building there is a row of foul smelling blossomed trees. One of them looks like it was burned or struck by lightning. Do you know what happened to this tree?

-arboretum of happiness

A:

Dear Arbor,

The fruitless pear tree (the stinky white blossom tree) was unfortunately struck by lightning and split in half as a literary device–hooray for symbols and foreshadowing! Here is an account from a freshman's diary of how it happened:

“No—that is the best of it,” he said.  And if I had loved him less I should have thought his semi-Argentinian accent a strange fresh-RM affectation; but, sitting by him, but roused from the nightmare of old-maidhood—called by this impromptu proposal to the paradise of marriage—I thought only of the bliss given me to drink in so abundant a flow.  Again and again he said, “Are you happy, Jane?”  And again and again I answered, “Yes.”  After which he murmured, “It will atone—it will atone.  Have I not found her as a freshman, confused, but well-fed on Dining Plus?  Will I not guard, and cherish, and give her distracting back rubs in Sacrament Meeting? Is there not love in my heart, and a Wymount contract to sign? I know BYU culture approves of what I do. For the world outside Provorem's judgment—that we have only known each other for two weeks—I wash my hands thereof.  For those heathens' opinions—I defy them.”

But what had befallen the night?  The moon had set behind the ESC, and we were all in shadow: I could scarcely see my his face, near as I was.  And what ailed the stinky fruitless pear tree? it writhed and groaned; while wind roared down the walkway, and came sweeping over us.

“We must go in,” said RM Rochester: “the weather changes. Friggin' Utah weather.  I could have sat with thee till morning, Jane.”

“And so,” thought I, “could I with you.”  I should have said so, perhaps, but a livid, vivid spark leapt out of a cloud at which I was looking, and there was a crack, a crash, and a close rattling peal; and I thought only of hiding my dazzled eyes against RM Rochester’s shoulder.

The rain rushed down.  He hurried me up the sidewalk, through the campus, and into the lobby of Hinckley Hall; but we were quite wet before we could pass the threshold. We ran into the lobby and he was taking off my jacket in the hall, and shaking the water out of my loosened hair, when my RA, Fairfax, saw us.  I did not observe her at first, nor did RM Rochester. The fluorescent light buzzed merrily.  The clock was on the stroke of twelve.

“Hasten to take off your wet things,” said he; “and before you go, good-night—good-night, my darling!”

My RA called out, "Get out of here; no men are permitted in the lobby past midnight."

***

Before I left my bed in the morning, I was listening to Adele and my roommate texted me to tell me that the great stinky fruitless pear between the Eyring and the Benson had been struck by lightning in the night, and half of it split away.

~Jane Eyre

Thanks to Jane for helping me out with this one! She's getting married on the 22nd; good luck to her!

–Concealocanth

Question #67219 posted on 04/16/2012 7:56 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

What elevator(s) on campus has a capacity of 33 persons?

-The Maintenance Man

A:

Dear Maintenance Man,

Which 33 people on campus fit the capacity of a given elevator?

With the right people, virtually any elevator could, and for any group outside an obesity support group the freight elevator in the Clyde could probably make it happen. 

~Professor Kirke

Question #67218 posted on 04/16/2012 7:56 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Do you feel like violence, sexual content, language in literature is "better" (or at least does not stay with you) as much as it does in visual media (magazine, movies, television)?

-My Name Here

A:

Dear my name here,

It depends. Well, violence, sexual content, and language stay with me more in movies, but that may be for two reasons. One, more movies with those qualities initially sound interesting to me and then go down that path before I realize it; two, books allow me to imagine how I want or skip something unsavory pretty easily. Rating Pending and I were talking about this the other day and we came up with a good rule: Writers need to be good writers. Similarly, movies need to be made well. What I mean by this is that in books and movies I can deal with violence, sexual content, and language to a degree if it is done well and not gratuitous or without purpose. Here is a current example, one that many people might disagree with. The Hunger Games. Honestly, I felt like the book was a little gratuitous. The violence was just too much. But in the movie it seemed to be strategically done and even though the entire premise is one of awful violence, it didn't feel as in-my-face as the book. 

That was a strange example, especially for me, because I tend to be way more affected by violence in movies than in books. Of the three things you mentioned (violence, sexual content, and language), violence is really the one that bothers me the most, and that is mainly in movies. Next is language, and that is only if it is really harsh language, constantly, seemingly without reason. There are countless movies that I could point to with gratuitous language, but the only book that comes to mind is Kraken. It just got to a point that every page was a new, more creative than the last, swear word. On the other hand, a book like A Scanner Darkly is filled with bad language, but the usage is somehow less jarring. 

As for sexual content, well I don't think I've ever seen or read a sexually explicit work. I did, however, read Lolita recently. That novel definitely gets a bad rap, but to me all the sexual content was subtle. That was part of what made it bizarre, in fact, and I'd argue it was a great literary choice. Which brings me back to my main point and conclusion: Writers (on books or movies) need to be good writers. The premise of Lolita easily lends itself to becoming trashy erotica, but Nabakov is a skilled writer who doesn't let it go that way. 

-Mico

Question #67217 posted on 04/16/2012 7:56 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I didn't hear President Uchtdorf mention anything about airplanes this past Conference. When was the last time before this that he went an entire general conference without sharing a story or analogy etc. about airplanes?

-Elevated

A:

Dear Ersatz Elevator,

President Uchtdorf talks about airplanes in the October 2011, April 2011, October 2010, April 2010 at the General Young Women Meeting, April 2009, April 2008, April 2007, October 2006, and October 2005. If you were paying close attention, you'll have noticed that October 2009 was the last time he went an entire Conference without talking about airplanes. In my searches through lds.org I noticed that he actually talks about airplanes more often in his Ensign articles than his Conference talks. If that wasn't enough airplane talks for you, there are plenty, plenty more general authorities who mention things that happened during air travel in their talks.

–Concealocanth

Question #67215 posted on 04/16/2012 7:56 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I grew up with a sister, my mom, no brothers, and an absent father. I have had plenty of guy friends and I have dated here and there but until fairly recently I haven't had a really deep and personal relationship with a guy so I would consider myself uneducated when it comes to men. I now have a boyfriend. We have been dating for 4 months. He is great, we get along well, he does nice things for me, treats me like a princess, and he is a very likable person. The only thing that has me concerned is that he can sometimes have a short fuse. Though we have had a couple of minor disagreements he has never really been angry AT me but on a few occasions I have been around to witness his frustrations. For example, today he couldn't find what he was looking for and he got pretty mad. He used a few choice word, threw his wallet down on the table, blamed his roommates for moving his stuff, and he was generally not very happy. This wasn't directed to me, but I witnessed it. This type of thing has happened a few times since we have been dating seriously, mostly over things that are things aren't that important in my opinion (but he would apparently disagree) like a video game or bad drivers. Usually in these situations I kinda just stay out of the way and wait for him to get over it and then he usually apologizes to me for his behavior. He has never hit a person (that is confirmed by his sister who has known him a lot longer than I have) and usually if he is wrong about something he will admit to it.

So now for my questions... I know that anger is something that has been talked about in the Priesthood sessions of general conference in the past. I am not saying that women can't be quick to anger also but I am wondering if guys are generally just more quick to anger? Please keep in mind I am not trying to stereotype or anything here, I just haven't had a lot of men around me and I want to know if I need to get out of a situation before it gets bad. Also, at what point should I worry that anger is a serious issue? What are some warning signs? And most importantly, how can I help him without upsetting him? Any advice or examples you can give me would be very appreciated.

-Peacemaker

A:

Dear peacemaker,

I will not make any generalizations here about men's anger versus women's anger. I think men and women both get angry at close to equal rates (depending more on personality than biological sex), but that they express that emotion differently. But I'd like to just talk about your situation instead. First things first, it is great that you are noticing your boyfriend's behaviors now instead of being in a total puppy love phase. When dating with the goal of marriage it is so important to see how your significant other reacts in various situations. 

From what you've said here it doesn't sound to me like your boyfriend has a serious anger problem. Before I go on, I'll confess that when I was dating Mr. Mico I went through a time wondering if he didn't have an anger problem. Similar to your boyfriend, he would get incredibly angry (out of nowhere, it seemed to me) at small things. At first, I would try to calm him down. He only got more annoyed, and I quickly realized that this was just part of his personality. Sometimes he gets mad about things and the only way to deal with it is to have some alone time while the anger wears off. Nevertheless, his anger made me contemplative: would he be this way around our children someday? Would he get mad at them for something insignificant and get sour-faced and give the child the cold-shoulder? That's what he was doing to me, and it made me quite unhappy; did I want to live with that?

So, what did I do next - I confronted him about it. I didn't time it very well, though. One day we were in the car and something or other happened and he got into this angry/annoyed mood. We were quiet for a few minutes, and then I straight up told him, "When you get angry like this is, it kind of scares me." Then we had a frank conversation. He explained that he was mad and couldn't control it much. I explained that I was worried it was a more serious problem. He said he would try not to be angry, and I said I would try not to take it personally if he was (after all, we all have emotions).

Now that I've shared my experiences, let's relate it back to your situation. You asked, "At what point should I worry that his anger is a serious issue?" Really look at how often he gets mad and what his reactions are. Is it as often as you think? Is it as serious as it seems? It might be that you are noticing how angry he gets because you are looking for it, when in reality it isn't so often. Similarly, you might be taking his anger personally, making it seem more serious when it really isn't. Have you talked to him about his anger? It sounds like you have talked to his sister about it, but have you talked with him directly? If not, you should confront him about it. Ask why he gets so worked up, what can you do to help, does he think it is a problem, and so on. You don't have to take his word for it, but having open communication will help in at least two ways. One, it will allow him to see that his anger is something you notice and take account of. Two, his reaction will show you some important things about his personality - can he take criticism, is he willing to talk through issues, will he try and make improvements.

Obviously, you cannot change him. If you find that he really has an anger problem, then you should not try to stick it out. It wouldn't be worth it. There are a lot of good resources online discussing anger problems (two basic sites I found are "Identifying Anger Problems" and "Help, I Live With Someone With Anger Issues"). Perusing those sites may help you to recognize signs of serious anger problems, as well as what are considered normal and healthy ways to deal with anger. Again, I want to emphasize that you should talk with your boyfriend about your concerns. If he doesn't listen or take you seriously, find a close friend or family member to discuss your concerns since that may be another problem you should be aware of. 

This ended up being a bit longer than I intended, but hopefully it was helpful. So far it sounds like your boyfriend just expresses his frustration more vocally/intensely than you are used to, but it is never a bad idea to check for more serious problems. Good luck in your relationship. 

-Mico

A:

Dear Peace,

I wouldn't want my sister to date that guy. We all have faults and when we choose who to date or marry, we are choosing which weaknesses we are willing to live with just as much as we are choosing which positives we are seeking. That said, I don't think my sister would be able to stay happy with anyone who is quick to anger. She would turn into a timid being and would be constantly afraid of making him angry. 

Is dating a guy like this going to change how you act around the house? Will you be constantly afraid of invoking his wrath? What about your children? Only you know how you might react to anger and nobody on this anonymous forum can tell you how serious his problem might be. Listen to Mico's advice as well, and keep in mind that just because I don't want my sister dating him doesn't mean that nobody should date him. 

 - Eliot Rosewater

Question #67208 posted on 04/16/2012 7:50 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,
I'm thinking about donating my plasma to supplement my income, but I also need to run about 2-4 miles each day to feel at my best. Are these two practices compatible?

-Fights like a girl

A:

Dear Fighter,

Something helpful from the Facebooks: 

plasma.png

Apparently, no, the two practices are not compatible.

–Concealocanth

A:

Dear person,

And now, for the second witness. A few years back my oldest brother donated blood and then went to the gym to work out. After a few minutes of exercising, he collapsed, hitting the exercise equipment on his way down, and was rushed to the emergency room. And that's the whole story. No, you shouldn't expect to keep up your rigorous exercise routine and give blood the same day. You'll just have to switch off (Monday: give blood, Tuesday: exercise, Wednesday: give blood, and so on and so on).

-Mico

posted on 04/17/2012 12:33 p.m.
I donate plasma very religiously (twice a week every month). Plasma is mostly water so when you donate plasma, you lose a ton of water from your blood. When you finish donating, they tell you to drink lots of water and no workout. Also, if you haven't donated blood before or it has been a long time, your brain might freak out during the donation (your brain might say, "Whoa, where is blood going? I need it!") then you start to get dizzy and all that good stuff.

So basically don't do anything too intense. However, you might be OK if you donated in the morning and worked out way later in the afternoon.
Question #67207 posted on 04/16/2012 7:50 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I love cooking. Recently, however, I realized that I rarely cook red meat. This seems like a hole in my cooking repertoire that I need to fill. Therefore, I turn to you, oh omniscient board. What are your favorite ways to prepare red meat?

-The Bayesian Conspiracy
(who recently discovered a honey garlic marinade)

A:

Dear Bayesian,

I really like this meatloaf recipe. Corned beef and cabbage hits the spot. I also like pot-roasts, since they are easy and can cook while I'm at school or work. I cook the roast in a crock pot on the low setting for 8 hours or so with at least two, but not all of the following ingredients (basically, whatever I have lying around): potatoes, onions, garlic, Coke, BBQ sauce, vinegar, brown sugar, carrots, Worcester sauce, mustard, and bacon.

My sister-in-law made the most delicious Roladen for Christmas Eve. Here's her recipe:

For the meat I asked the butcher to slice me some round steak. You want it about a quarter inch thick, 3x8 inches. Salt and pepper meat and spread on prepared mustard. Put bacon slices on meat. Cut lengthwise wedges of onion and dill pickle, place on meat, roll up and tie with string. Roll in flour and brown in hot oil. Add boiling water with two cubes of bullion to meat. Simmer till tender. Thicken broth to make gravy. 

-Hamilton

Question #67194 posted on 04/16/2012 7:44 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Should Watts ask Pilgrim out? They're sitting next to each other at the party, and Watts just openly wondered about it.

~Professor Kirke

A:

Dear Professor,

I admit, the godly beard (akin to that of Thor) entranced me so that I forgot myself. Alas, Watts is supposed to end up with Keith, not with a demigod, and thus I have chosen to refrain from asking Pilgrim out on a date.

However, if he is ever interested in actually going to a haunted house (which was spoken of several times, but never actually happened), I would be all over that. Like BBQ sauce on ribs. 

This sounds like the start to a beautiful, platonic friendship. 

-Watts

Question #67188 posted on 04/16/2012 7:44 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board writers,

We the collective curiosities of the readers would appreciate it if each member of the board answered the following questions:

Of your fellow board writers which would you be most likely to:
Date?
Prank?
Hate?
Save the life of?
Watch die?
Marry?
Fire from the board?
Ask the opinion of?
Eat?
Slap?
Harm?
Forward a Question to?
Correct the Grammar of?

Feel free to add any question to this mix

~The Collective Curiosity of Many Readers

A:

Dear curiosity,

I want to eat Concealocanth. Seafood, guys. 

As for the rest of the list, I have already done many of those things with Anne, Certainly. There are a few more I could potentially enjoy; maybe I will in the future. Take that as you will.

~Professor Kirke

A:

Dear Collective,

Date? CATS
Prank? CATS
Hate? CATS
Save the life of? CATS
Watch die? CATS
Marry? CATS
Fire from the board? CATS
Ask the opinion of? CATS
Eat? CATS
Slap? CATS
Harm? CATS
Forward a Question to? CATS
Correct the Grammar of? Professor Kirke

~Anne, Certainly

A:

Dear Just Curious,

Date: Mmm... Chris, what a hottie. Such biceps I had never seen on a mortal before.
Prank: Haha. Alicia, definitely. She has a deep-seated fear of tinfoil. I feel like I could use that to my advantage here.
Hate: I seriously hate Randy SO MUCH. What a jerk. YOU KNOW WHAT YOU DID.
Save the life of: Nicole. After all, she saved mine, back in the Caucasus... but I don't want to get into any gritty details, but it involved a one-legged man, a time machine, a Mongol Horde, and a diplomatic "misunderstanding" involving the differing qualities of arugula and spinach.
Watch die: Depends on which writer visits Reno with me first.
Marry: While Chris is hot, I wouldn't say he's exactly "eternal marriage material." Therefore... Charlie, cause he's a huge fan of The Little Mermaid, and that's pretty much the greatest movie of all time. We could watch it together, every day for eternity. <3
Fire from the board: Can't we just get rid of Randy? Guys? 
Ask the opinion of: Charlessss. He's the best shoulder to cry on, if we're not going to be literal here and bring up Chris's biceps.
Eat: Depends on which writers get stranded with me in the Sierra Nevadas.
Slap: Harry. Seriously, one more "belong in the kitchen" joke and your death/slap warrant is signed, buddy.
Harm: Tie between Harry and Randy. 
Forward a Question to: Harry. Cause while he's a chauvinist pig, he's also not half-bad as a writer.
Correct the Grammar of: Melvin. Geez, someone needs to write a program to automatically flag his answers for comma splicing. And the way he dangles his modifiers–it's SCANDALOUS, that's what it is.

 –Concealocanth, who just revealed EVERYONE'S SECRET IDENTITIES! HAHAHA.*
 
*Kay, so this is all totally made up. There might be writers named some of these things, there might not be. But let's be clear here: I actually kind of detest the plot of the Disney movie The Little Mermaid, and while many of the writers are excellent for advice and opinions, nobody here is sexist and there isn't actually anyone I'd slap/harm/fire/eat. Eat?? That is such a weird question.
 
**Oh, and looking at the date/marry thing, do ya'll realize that there are only FOUR current single male writers?
Question #67173 posted on 04/16/2012 7:44 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

I recently bought new Temple garment bottoms, Carnissa,(91% polyester, 9% spandex) the exact same size, and the fit is not the same.

I believe I used fabric softener on the first ones I bought. Did that make them stretch out to fit bigger than the ones I am wearing now? OR has something changed? I do notice that the bottoms I bought dated 8/10 do NOT say "No Fabric Softener", BUT my new ones, dated 5/11 and 9/11 both say "No Fabric Softener".

I do notice that their is a "CUT/CORTE #" on each of them:
8/10 is CUT 35260
5/11 is CUT 39249
9/11 is CUT 10796.

They are all 4249300 and the same size, XS-A.

The old ones, dated 8/10 are a 1/2 inch bigger.

I have never used fabric softener on the new Carnissa bottoms, and I have hung them to dry, 95% of the time. I believe I have put them in the dryer a few times. The older Carnissa bottoms, have been in the dryer 99% of the time and with fabric softener.

Has the fabric or cut changed?

I would think if the size difference was from being old and stretched out, that by now, my new ones would have close to the same amount of "stretched outness" as the older ones.

Why the change from the bottoms dated 8/10 allowing for fabric softener to the ones dated 5/11 and 9/11 saying "No Fabric Softener"?

ALSO what is the secret to keeping my garments sparkling white? I only wash whites with whites, and never use chlorine bleach. I have used Oxyclean but it hasn't really done the job. I do have a water softener as well.

I appreciate your time and energy in answering these questions for me!

Thanks
GR8Kids Mom

A:

Dear Ozzy,

This isn't going to be the best answer you've ever received, but it will be the best that I can do for you.

Not all of your temple garments are made at the same place. You probably have just purchased garments that come from a different plant, which results in a slightly different fit. I've also noticed, myself, that the longer I own a set of garments, the more it will stretch, which makes sense because fabric does tend to wear down over time, especially when it's frequently worn. As for the fabric softener, I don't use it, but I do put a dryer sheet in the dryer which essentially serves the same purpose, thus I don't think that really matters much. 

I'm pretty sure that there are some suggestions in the archives about keeping your whites white, but there's only so much a person can do. Everything you're already doing is what I'd suggest. Sorry. I've never claimed to be a laundry pro!

-Azriel

Question #67161 posted on 04/16/2012 7:44 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

My fiancee and I met on an airplane flight this past December on our way home for Christmas break. Now, we are trying to make a video recreating the events of how we met and fell in love. We were hoping to be able to take some pictures of us on a plane. Do you know how we could get on a plane without buying a ticket to fly somewhere? Or do you know where we could find a movie set of a plane that would suffice? The whole process wouldn't take more than 30 minutes max...

-Steven

A:

Dear Sufjan,

I did some checking around, and it seems that you couldn't get access to a movie set of an airplane without good inside connections for cheaper than a $70 flight. You might consider actually hopping on a plane for a fun (but expensive) day trip.

–Concealocanth

posted on 04/17/2012 12:33 p.m.
Dear Sufjan (again),

An informant tells me that you can go take photos in the airplane display at the Arizona Science Center, if you happen to be in the Phoenix area. So, you know, there's also that.

–Concealocanth (again)