Hey there. I identify with this question quite a bit because I have spent an excessive amount of time worrying about the nature of God in my life. I worry about whether God cares about the feelings of women generally. Some things in the scriptures feel very coercive to me and that freaks me out. I'm also probably not the most orthodox in my beliefs, so if what I say sounds over the top to you, no worries - I'm not an authority on any of this, just a random internet stranger.
The thing that has helped me is to start by making assumptions about God and then interpreting the scriptures in light of my assumptions, not the other way around. During my better days/weeks/years, I can assume that God is not coercive and does care about women's feelings. Whenever God in the scriptures says something at odds with that assumption, I throw it out the window and don't believe in it. I do this because I think it's more important to believe in a good God than to believe every single last word that has been recorded by men and canonized by men as scripture. If God is mad at me for this and sends me to hell because of it, then that's honestly for the best because I wouldn't want to be with Him anyways.
One of the most hopeful scriptures that I know of is Mormon 9:31, which reads: "Condemn me not because of mine imperfection, neither my father, because of his imperfection, neither them who have written before him; but rather give thanks unto God that he hath made manifest unto you our imperfections, that ye may learn to be more wise than we have been."
This scripture makes it clear that there is room to interpret scriptures, to take parts that feel wrong with a grain of salt. I feel very comfortable saying that you are not an object, and if anything in the scriptures depicts women as objects, that part is wrong. I'll fight anyone who says otherwise. The end.