Kissing is just cuddling with your lips. -Krishna
Question #93005 posted on 03/25/2020 6:42 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Those people who use the toilet seat liners, and use toilet paper to touch handles and doors, how do they fasten their pants and buckle their belts before getting to the sink?

-Loophole

A:

Dear Holy,

You use one hand to grab everything and the other exclusively for doing up your pants. It may take some practice, but doing up pants one-handed, or setting up toilet seat liners one-handed is totally feasible.

Barring that, hand sanitizer and wipes are very useful when it comes to cleaning things like buckles, buttons, and zippers.

~Anathema

Question #92978 posted on 03/25/2020 4:47 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

This Sunday, I was listening to President M. Russell Ballard's BYU devotional from March 3rd. See here:
https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/m-russell-ballard/children-heavenly-father/

Towards the end, Elder Ballard emphatically reiterated his primary topic, that we are each children of a loving God, and that this is important. (His related sub-topic appears to be that we should act with dignity and love towards ourselves, God, and others). It seems that after feeling sure of his topic, Elder Ballard became [more?] aware of some controversy at BYU, and he saw in retrospect how reminding students of BYU of their individual divine heritage might serve as some sort of counterweight to some overly aggressive tone the controversy might otherwise end up taking.

I am paraphrasing very, very loosely, partly because to paraphrase, I have to reconstruct the argument.

So my question:
Are there any resources/summaries I can look at to have a brief overview of the controversy? (And would it do me, an alumni, any good, any way?)

I am asking that you be ginger. I want true or at least honest sources, and I want to avoid anything that could reasonably be construed as (unreasonably) dangerous to my faith in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints or to my faith in humanity.

I don't especially want to maximize length; I don't necessarily want to read much about controversies right now.

-Although your discretion can't be of use, if I am too easily offended.

A:

Dear friend, 

Which controversy do you mean? I felt that he talked most specifically about race in his devotional, much more than addressing LGTBQ+ folks on campus. This seems to be what most people around me heard as well. So, here is essentially what I know about the race controversy on campus. 

As a sociology student, talked directly to two of the panelists and the professor that organized and moderated the event. So I know pretty much from the source what happened. If you would like to understand the official report of what happened, please refer to this tweet thread by BYU and this article from the SL Trib. If you'd rather avoid that, I promise I won't throw in a lot of opinions and my information is solid and good. 

As part of Black History Month, a group of people including a Sociology professor and the student president of the Black Student Union on campus planned a panel event to be held on campus called "Black and Immigrant." Four Black female panelists were selected, all of them from different backgrounds. The panel decided to use a program/app called Slido which allowed students in attendance to anonymously submit questions to be reviewed by the moderator and then asked to the panelists. The anonymous questions were visible to all people at the event using the app, allowing people to vote for their 'favorite' questions, which is designed to show the moderator which questions are something that a lot of people are thinking about and address the most important ones first. 

From one of the organizers, I was told that a couple minutes before the event was scheduled to begin, a group of three young white men approached the desk and asked for the code to submit questions to the panel. Out of good faith, the organizers provided them with the code and thanked them for showing up. Then, the boys left quickly and didn't stay for the panel. There were a handful of explicitly racist questions that were asked before the rest of the questions started coming in, so it was clear those boys were the ones that asked them before they hurried off. This would make it pretty obvious the questions they were asking weren't honest or asked out of curiosity and wanting to learn, they were intentionally asked to start a controversy. 

Having those racist questions visible to other students at the panel seemed to change the tone of what was acceptable in terms of asking questions. More problematic questions flowed in, of course interspersed with genuine and good questions that were discussed by the panelists. However, everyone saw what was said. The panelists, the moderator, the attendees. At an event that was designed to be a place to have a good discussion and promote understanding, people were left feeling alienated, hurt, and confused. 

BYU, in the quoted tweet thread, emphasized that this is not acceptable behavior and the university does not stand for or condone racist behavior. The problem is, the questions were anonymous and the boys never provided their names, so it is unlikely they'll receive any rebuke. Aside from the short tweet thread, BYU didn't add much else. 

Racism is a problem on BYU campus. I've witnessed a plethora of instances in classes and passing people as I walk around during the day. I've heard stories from my friends about the Honor Code office and Testing Center, as well as in general in their classes and with peers. You can read some stories on the Stop Your Silence BYU Instagram Page

Though you can report interpersonal disrespect to the Honor Code office, there are rarely consequences for individual racist actions and behaviors. Additionally, there are structural occurrences across campus that probably need to be addressed, like profiling people for hair and clothing that doesn't conform to a white standard. 

This issue highlighted the lack of institutional-level action against racism on campus, and further made minority students on campus feel alienated, unseen, and disrespected. Their feelings are important and valid and worth listening to, not dismissing. 

What happened next (and kind of where it wrapped up) was with Hanna Seariac's opinion article posted by the SL Trib, which claimed that BYU wasn't responsible to handle the racist actions of the few individuals who chose to make bad decisions at that panel. Why would their actions have anything to do with BYU as an institution? In a response article by Franchesca Lopez, she addresses why Hanna's op-ed is fallacious and falls prey to a willful blindness toward the struggles of her minority siblings in Christ. 

Those two articles kind of represent a large majority of opinions around the issue, but the point was that it made people feel unsafe and unwanted, like they didn't belong here. 

President Ballard's devotional as far as I can tell was intended to address that feeling of alienation and remind us that discussions about issues like racism on campus are necessary and important, but that ultimately we must remember that we are all children of God and need to treat each other with respect because that is our most important identity. 

Hope that helps. You can always ask a new question if you have some things you'd like me to clarify. Or shoot me an email. 

Cheers, 

Guesthouse

Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Okay, let's see if I can explain this in a way that is coherent... I was having a friendly political debate with my dad last night. About Trump. I expressed that women and minorities do not feel represented by President Trump. That they do not feel empowered by him. I explained that I feel as though women and minorities are worse off since he assumed office. But... I didn't really have anything other than my own personal feelings (and the feelings of others around me) to back it up.

So, wise Board, can you help me back this up? Are there any facts or statistics or data points or stories or anecdotes or anything to explain how women and minorities have been impacted since he became President? Also, are there any direct quotes from him that would represent how he feels and acts toward these groups?

-The Feminist

A:

Dear Feminist,

Hahahahah OH HUNNY Of course I can help you. Sorry it took so long. I have to take breaks from this answer because it makes me sad and angry every time I work on it. 

FACTS, STATISTICS, AND DATA POINTS

Source 1: Since taking office, Trump has nominated two judges to the Supreme Court, so now it is a conservative court that is more likely to vote to overturn Roe V. Wade. Regardless of whether you are pro-life or pro-choice, there is a problem and genuine cause for concern that the government is dictating what women are and aren't allowed to do with their own bodies. Of course, as we'll point out in the quotes section, it's pretty obvious Trump doesn't really care about respecting women in the first place. 

Source 2: "Under the Obama-era Affordable Care Act, women's insurance must include access to birth control, as well as preventative screenings and services, at no extra cost. Some employers want to deny coverage of contraceptives on moral or religious grounds. The Trump administration is in their corner. Several courts have ruled the employers can't cut the coverage. One judge estimated that nearly 70,500 women would have lost access to birth control had that not been the case."

The administration is pushing a bill to allow six weeks of paid leave, as opposed to the 12 weeks of unpaid leave currently mandated by the Family and Medical Leave Act of 1993.

The number of women who ran for office increased, arguably because we're scared. It's the attitude surrounding the presidency that suggests that women's rights are not something he cares about at all. 

He's reported to restrict the CDC from using words like 'transgender' and 'science-based' in their reports? Brilliant, that makes a lot of sense. See Source 3

Other sources you can read: Source 4 (great one), And a brilliant list of 100 ways the Trump administration has hurt women, with SOURCES! For extra fact checking! Wow!  See Source 5 (this one is definitely worth reading)

For the sake of time, I'll leave that one there. But recent behavior around Covid-19 is also worth looking into. 

STORIES, ANECDOTES, and DIRECT QUOTES ABOUT HOW HE FEELS ABOUT WOMEN & MINORITIES 

(Of course, this is where all the real kickers are, because even if he can't promote specific policies that show he hates women and minorities, he sure as heck says a lot that proves it.) 

Let's start with sources, which you can look at if you want the full lists I just selected excerpts from: One, Two, Three, Four, Five, Six, Seven, Eight

And now for a cringe-worthy, should-have-been-impeached, dirt-bag-frat-boy, all-around-immoral-human-being list of quotes/tales to give you all the more reason to be upset!

  • "I just start kissing them. It’s like a magnet. Just kiss. I don’t even wait. And when you’re a star, they let you do it. You can do anything. Grab them by the pussy. You can do anything.” — Trump on women
  • "You know, it really doesn't matter what the media write, as long as you've got a young and beautiful piece of ass."
  • "I've said if Ivanka weren't my daughter, perhaps I'd be dating her."
  • "Before a show, I'll go backstage and everyone's getting dressed, and everything else, and you know, no men are anywhere, and I'm allowed to go in because I'm the owner of the pageant and therefore I'm inspecting it...You know, they're standing there with no clothes. And you see these incredible looking women, and so, I sort of get away with things like that." — Trump on the Miss America pageant
  • "Ariana Huffington is unattractive both inside and out. I fully understand why her former husband left her for a man--he made a good decision."
  • "When Mexico sends its people, they're not sending the best. They're not sending you, they're sending people that have lots of problems and they're bringing those problems. They're bringing drugs, they're bringing crime. They're rapists and some, I assume, are good people, but I speak to border guards and they're telling us what we're getting."
  • “I did try and f*** her... I moved on her like a bi***, but I couldn’t get there. And she was married.” — Trump on a woman he tried to seduce
  • "I think the only difference between me and the other candidates is that I'm more honest and my women are more beautiful."
  •  "What is it at 35? It's called check-out time." — Trump on relationships with women
  • "No, I have no age — I mean, I have an age limit. I don't want to be like Congressman Foley, with, you know, 12-year-olds." — Trump on whether or not he has an age limit for women he sleeps with.
  • “I have black guys counting my money. … I hate it," Trump told John R. O'Donnell, the former president of Trump Plaza Hotel & Casino, according O'Donnell's account in his 1991 book "Trumped!"... "The only guys I want counting my money are short guys that wear yarmulkes all day." Trump, according to O'Donnell, went on to say, "'Laziness is a trait in blacks. It really is, I believe that."
  • In an interview with NBC News in September 1989, Trump remarked, "A well-educated black has a tremendous advantage over a well-educated white in terms of the job market." He continued: "If I were starting off today, I would love to be a well-educated black, because I believe they do have an actual advantage."
  • "I’m leading in the polls with the Hispanics. I mean, you look at Nevada, I’m leading in the polls with the Hispanics because I produce jobs, and they know it. I have thousands of Hispanics that work for me, my relationships to Hispanics is better than those groups," 
  • Speaking to Time magazine for a profile published in January 1989, Trump was asked to give an estimate of his total wealth. "Who the f knows? I mean, really, who knows how much the J*ps will pay for Manhattan property these days?" he asked in response, using a racial slur for the Japanese.
  • In a New York magazine profile published in November 1992, a year after Trump divorced his first wife, Ivana, Trump was quoted dispensing his wisdom about how to handle the fairer sex. "You have to treat 'em like shit," Trump said in the article to friend Philip Johnson, who responded, "You'd make a good mafioso." Trump's response: "One of the greatest."
  • At an October No Labels event in New Hampshire, a member of the audience told him, "Maybe I'm wrong ... but I don't think you're a friend to women." Trump interrupted, insisting, "I respect women incredibly" and noting the number of women who work for him and the opportunities he has provided them" 
- And many, many more that you can view by clicking any of the links I included above! Read at your own discretion, you may just want to start a revolution after. I'll stop here for the sake of getting you your answer. 
 
So yeah uh, in case anyone had any doubts our current president is a racist, sexist, bigot, with a questionable moral compass (if he has one at all) who thinks he can take advantage of anyone he wants because he has money and say whatever racial slurs he wants to and get away with it. And people let him. Because they care more about golf and marginal tax cuts than they do about human decency or competency. 
 
Cheers, 
 
Guesthouse 
Question #93001 posted on 03/25/2020 12:17 a.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

What are some tips for flirting on dating apps when I don’t plan on meeting up with any strangers (social distancing FTW)?

- Roz

A:

Dear R,

  • Ask them to write you poetry. 
  • Go on a "pretend date" where you ask them what activities you would hypothetically do when the quarantine is up. 
  • Share memes. Memes are the language of love

Peace,

Tipperary

A:

Dear Aziraphale,

A little while back, guppy wrote this answer on long distance dating, and I think it applies well to dating when everyone is quarantined.

~Anathema