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Friday, January 15, 2021
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

My 4-year-old recently told me about something she likes to do "because it tickles my private parts." I know a lot of people who end up struggling with masturbation issues pinpoint the beginning of the problem to early years,before they understood what they were doing, so I wanted to respond lovingly and in an age appropriate way, but I had no idea what to say! And now I'm having a hard time finding resources to help me. It seems like all the church's resources are geared toward older kids (tweens/teens), and non-church resources just instruct parents to tell their kids not to touch themselves in public.
So, 100 Hour Board, I turn to you for help. How do I talk to my very young daughter about this issue?
Thank you!
Well-Intentioned Mama

A:

Dear you,

I don't think you should make a big deal out of this. for a couple reasons. First, making a big deal out of it could give the wrong impression that certain parts of her body are bad or are off-limits. This isn't the message you are wanting to send, but it could easily be taken that way, especially by someone so young. Second, making a big deal of it could make her way more curious down the road which could exacerbate any masturbation issues you are fearing.

To be honest, my first reaction would be to ignore it at this stage because chances are she'll just grow out of it, and I'd rather have a daughter who masturbates than a daughter who struggles with loving her body or feeling like the sexual part of herself is bad.

Another approach would be having an age appropriate sex lesson. You could teach her about her vulva, vagina, and clitoris. Teach her what they do and why you feel like she shouldn't play with them. This approach might be really uncomfortable for you, and it could lead to her asking more questions that you'd rather not answer at this stage of her life, but it also might curb her curiosity and help her understand why you think those parts of her body are sacred.

Whatever you do, I think it is sound advice to tell her not to do it in public.

I hope that helps!

-Sunday Night Banter


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Question #93459 posted on 01/15/2021 3:26 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

Help! I'm looking for songs to help teach math concepts like skip counting and adding to make 10. I know when I was a kid 20 years ago, I learned fun songs for counting by 10s, counting to 10, and stuff like that. Now all I can find though when I search for songs are "chants", or they have a tune to introduce the topic and then the actual counting is a boring chant.

Do you know of any awesome learning songs that aren't the popular ones on youtube?

Thanks.

-Miss Frazzled

A:

Dear you, 

Unfortunately, the only math song I know is the quadratic formula set to the tune of "Pop Goes the Weasel". Because ready recorded math songs can be hard to come by, you could try different methods to teach basic math concepts like making up a game. 

If any readers have specific math song suggestions, feel free to leave a correction.

~Anathema

A:

Dear Frazzle, 

PLEASE, go and watch peg + cat!!! There are few children's TV shows I love more. You can find some of the videos on the PBS website. The show is math-focused, super funny, and has some cute songs! They use the recurring "100 chickens" as a plot device that requires lots of different counting methods.I know they have videos/songs for counting by 2s, 5s, and 10s - even if there aren't songs, I think it does a great job helping kids understand the mathematical concepts. 

Hopefully that helps a little! 

Cheers, 

Guesthouse


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