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Question #78916 posted on 08/28/2014 1:12 p.m.
Q:

Dear 100 Hour Board,

My boyfriend's birthday is coming up--which is a problem--because he doesn't like receiving gifts. I was thinking of decorating his room while he was at work. The only problem with this is that I am not allowed inside his bedroom due to the Honor Code.

Here is my reasoning on why it should be okay:

-He would be at work and not in the apartment
-He has a private room
-It wouldn't take very long
-It would be in the early afternoon
-The other roommates would know I was there
-I would be decorating with balloons/streamers/etc.

I don't want to violate the Honor Code, so I would like a second (or third, fourth, etc.)opinion. Would it be okay if I decorated his apartment?


- Nervous about Breaking the Honor Code

A:

Dear nervous,

Yeah, no. Doing that would definitely be against the Honor Code.

Would it be a serious violation? I don't think so. Would I have a problem with it if I were one of his roommates? Probably not, if I knew what was going on. If you want to do it, and if his roommates are all okay with it, then that's your decision. But it would technically be a violation of the Honor Code, and saying "I'm doing it as an act of service for my boyfriend, and I wasn't even in there all that long" would not get you any leniency if you got in trouble.

Should it be okay? Yes. There is nothing sinful or criminal about it. But this question isn't about what BYU's rules should be, it's about what they actually are. Personally, I'd recommend finding something different to do for him this year. If you end up marrying the guy, you'll have plenty of freedom to decorate to your heart's content for the rest of eternity.

-yayfulness

A:

Dear you,

I personally think the Honor Code Office would really have to be going by a very "letter-of-the-law" approach to consider you in violation. The "spirit of the law" seems to be to avoid all chances of sexual misconduct by staying away from compromising situations, such as being in a bedroom of the opposite sex. In this situation I don't see any compromising situation for the exact reasons you stated. But, the Church does have this thing for "exact obedience" and the HCO is known for being quite strict. So really it's up to you.

-Ozymandias